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36-40,
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writes:the guy i'm in love with is moving in a couple months for work (for few years). when he found out that he got this new job he wanted to tell me that same day (we have a close friendship). however, i was unable to answer his call. he then rang me the next day telling me about this job offer and that he 'wanted to share his news' with me the day he found out. we didnt really speak much about as i was busy at the time.he has no idea how i feel. sometimes i feel that maybe he too has feelings for me, but then sometimes i think i'm imagining it coz i want it to be there. i think he may know that i feel something for him, coz when he doesnt reply to my calls and the next time i speak to him, i always tell him not to ignore me and just tell me if he is busy (the calls are normally calls for help as i'm studying a course that he has already completed). he then apologises again and again, and does so for a few days. thats when i feel that he feels something for me.its my birthday in a few weeks and i want to tell him, but i dont know how to tell. i have exams at the moment and we have planned to meet after them, which is the week of my birthday. but in the past, whenever we have tried to meet something always happens and cant meet. i think that someone is trying to tell me that this is not meant to be.we speak on the phone often and its great. he tells me things that i wouldnt expect him to tell me. i want to tell him something before he goes, but coz we find it hard to meet, i dont know how to. we dont have any mutual friends that can help either. help please. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2007): I fell in love with someone and I was just sitting at my computer and it came into my head what I was feeling in my heart, I didn't think he felt the same way but when our professional relationship was coming to end he told me and I told him and although I'm not with him now, I'm glad that I told him because I would have regreted it. Take a chance and tell him why you'll miss him.
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (11 February 2007):
 Why don't you bring into the conversation that it's your birthday soon and you'd love it if you he could make a special effort so that you can both do something together. I think he will!
It's so hard when you have feelings for someone then hear they're going to be moving away and you might never see him again. Let him know you're really pleased for him but let him know too that you'll miss him so much. He's been a good friend to you and you hoped in time, you would both grow to be more than good friends. Keep a stiff upper lip though then shrug it off by saying, "never mind, wishful thinking on my part I suppose." At least THAT lets him know how you feel. There's really nothing more you can do than that, the ball's in his court with regards to a reply.
Eve
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