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writes: I am dating my friend's brother. That part is not the problem though. The problem was that ever since I have started dating my friend's brother, it was getting harder and more awkward for me to talk to my friend now. After all, I did meet her brother through her. Is the tension between both of us some kind of phase on the whole "dating friend's brother" thing or is it just me? Because I still care about my friendship with her. She told me that she was ok with me dating her brother, but we haven't talked as much as we used to. HELP!!!!! T-T
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2008): Don't date her brother. It's a stupid idea. You may think it's not the fact that yall are dating that is a problem, but that is EXACTLY the problem. Think about it in reverse. How would you feel if she dated your brother? It's a crappy thing to do to a friendship, and it's not either of your faults, it just is a difficult position to be in, whether you are her or you. No matter how much time you make to spend time with both of them, if she's not used to having her brother around her friends and all of a sudden you make that happen, she resents it. Just choose whether you want to keep your friendship or your relationship. Which is more important, and if you HAD to pick RIGHT NOW, which would you choose? Plain and simple.
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reader, smeedle  +, writes (7 March 2006):
 This was inevitable and normal, you were the person she could tell all her trouble to, she could tell you secrets etc, now she is keeping her gaurd up as she does not know what you will let slip to her brother.
When she agreed to you seeing her brother she did not know how this would effect your relationship and now she feels out on a limb.
You need to spend some time with just her, tell her that anything she says to you will not get back to her brother and mean what you say.
Make sure you see your bloke on different days to your friend, so they are clear who you are visting, this is the only way to keep both friendships going, and tell your boyfriend to respect the relationship you have with his sister and not to ask about anything you do together or talk about.
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