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writes: I am really torn.I recently met a man who is 32. I am 18. We had a lovely evening, and it seemed as though we were infatuated with each other. We decided to meet up a few days later, but I freaked out about the age gap and cancelled, although he said it could just be as friends to make it easier.If it wasn't for the age gap, he would be perfect. He is the most gorgeous guy I have ever seen! We share a lot of the same interests, i.e. literature and the coast etc. He extremely intelligent, in fact, he is a teacher at a local school. I have never been taught by him and have not attended any school that he has taught at. He only teaches up to the age of 16. I do not see this aas he problem- it is mainly the age gap. Although I am 18, I do believe that the opinions of some people about even dating may be difficult to deal with.I am mature for my age, and bright. I wouldn't say that I am a typical 18 year old girl. He does not look 32 either.. I did not realise his age. My friend, who ahs met him, thinks that he's lovely.. and "what's not to like? intelligent, romantic, caring and hot!" but .. he is 32, isn't he!? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2006): I am the writer of the question. We are now in a relationship. The problems:I think he feels like a failure in the career area of his life. Some of my friends refuse to meet him.It's exteremely difficult lying to my parents.I got a sense that he was too old and got a bit freaked out last time I stayed over.I have exams coming up!Help! Is it worth all this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2006): Hey girl, I really wouldn't worry about the age difference unless he treats you as being much younger. I was in a five year relationship with someone for all the wrong reasons then at 23 I got swept off my feet by a 35 year old. Believe me I'm much happier in the relationship where I chose the person for them, not from a list of superficial bullshit they tell you to go for at 18.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2006): I will be honest with you-I have not always been a proponent of age-gap relationships especially where it involves young teens and much, much older people. There are situations, where I really question the motives, of the older partner but this may not the case with you. I was impressed by your maturity and the way you expressed your thoughts in your posting. In some cases, age really is NO indicator of someone's maturity, honesty or overall good character and there are times when two people meet and the ages seem to just 'melt' away. I think this may be what is happening with you and this fellow. But just remember, age is only an issue if you make it an issue. One cannot base a potentially wonderful love relationship on paranoia and what others may think. So just relax about all that. There is one key factor that need to be addressed and perhaps as this relationship progresses, this should come into discussions. Where does he stand on marriage and children? Quite often, the older, maturer man wants this. Whereas, at 18, you are just venturing into a phase of your life, where you are establishing your footing, as a young adult. Travel, education, career are things you may want to experience things in life, before settling down. Is he supportive of your dreams and goals? Aside from that, if he is treating you as an equal, if he is respecting you and you two share the same values-then go for it. There are many couples vast age differences who are committed, extremely fulfilled, and very happy. I think it works best when you are both very comfortable with yourselves and you share the same maturity levels. Good luck, dear and stay happy
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reader, smeedle  +, writes (7 March 2006):
 OK for once im going to say forget his age and go for it, you seem mature and he seems nice, you know your own mind and you have thought things through.
Date him and take it slow and easy as there is no rush, he is older and so may want things you are just not ready to give yet so talk to him and work through stuff as it crops up.
Yes there will be people who disaprove, but im sure not many people know his age as there is no need to tell people is there, just tell people he is your bloke and there opinions are not needed.
Go for it!!
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