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writes:I got into a fight with someone special to me over the summer. After a couple of months I finally said sorry to him. Then two days ago we talked about what happened between us. When I asked about how he felt about the fight and me he got so mad! After I said sorry about one hundred times in a single text, he replied back "its not you, i'm just done with everyone, just leave me alone." I feel like I am the one to blame and I feel really bad. And he's really confusing me, 'cause sometimes he seems like he wants to talk to me and then some days he doesn't even look at.I guees part of the problem is that I have feelings for him and he doesn't have any for, he's told me that.(even though he kissed me on the last day of school.) I'm also kind of scared for him, a couple of years ago before I met him he tried to kill himself, and I feel like he's going through that path again....I love him to death and he knows, he may not like it but he knows. He knows he's so special to me and that I don't want this to be goodbye. Part of me is mad because he's giving up on everyone and thats what happened to my 1st boyfriend and I don't want it to happen to him too. And part of me wants to try to help him and just hold him in his arms and never, ever let him go. I'm trying so hard here, and i'm so scared that I can't get him to understand. Most of my friends say they would have given up by now, I don't want to. I just wish I knew how to help him, 'cause its breaking my heart. What should I do?
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reader, RIKI93dw  +, writes (25 September 2010):
Ok he could be feeling be feeling like that your life and others around him could be better without him in them you just need to prove to him that this is not true and just his mind playing tricks on him and I'm sorry but it's going to be harder than jus telling him you love him what you should do is get others like his family and yours and his friends and have a intervention where you sit him and show all your love for him and ask or encourage him to talk about his problems/troubles and untill you get this sortted if you choose to do this is if your are worried about him is not to let be alone as you he tried to kill himself before and I'm not saying he will jus don't think he won't again ok he's obviously got things in his head that he must talk about or he'll get worse trust me I kno you have to get him to talk whether he wants to or not ok
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (25 September 2010):
 You need to mention this to an adult you trust maybe even a teacher you know? If he is on self destruct mode he needs help fast. Try and talk to him and tell him that your always there to talk to him, dont mention the fact that you have feelings for him anympre as this might be to over whelming for him but do reassure him that he can trust you and that you will listen to him. Be his friend and be there for him but nothing more.
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