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writes:My friend has been on three dates with this guy and already they are in a relationship! Am I the only one who thinks that is very quick? She said that they didn't see any need dragging it out when they know they'd want to be together and like each other so much. I can tell by the way she is so happy when she speaks about him and them together how great it is and how amazing they get along!But still, do you not think that's really quick? It's only just been about a month and the fewest of dates and they're in a relationship... Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (10 February 2014):
 I don't really think so... when I was dating I had the three date rule.
IF by three dates I wasn't feeling it there was no fourth date, why bother.
But if after three dates I was feeling it, then for sure I was going for it if he was interested.
Lucky for them they are on the same page.
IT may not last long... but for now it's working for them
who are we to judge?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2014): I think you need to butt out and just be happy for her. You are trying to find something wrong with her relationship and the course it's taken and it comes off as kinda selfish and maybe even a little jealous.
I've jumped into relationships quickly in the past. My first love and I became boyfriend/girlfriend after just two weeks of knowing each other. It is not unusual, especially at your age. When you click with someone you just click. I find it more unusual when you have been dating someone for two months and still don't know where you stand.
Let it be and just be happy for her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2014): As long as she is happy that is all that matters. Even if it is too quick she can set boundaries for herself like not
having sex too soon. It's fun in the first stages of a relationship and for me personally I like talking to a guy
and having fun cause that's what it should be about. All the
other things fall into place. It's nice that you care and you are concerned, but sometimes we have to step back a little
bit.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2014): maybe i'm in a minority, but i don't see the point of 'dating' really. With my boyfriend of 2 and a half years, we met, the next day hung out and by that evening we were officially going out :) if you like someone, go out with them instantly- i'd get jealous and annoyed if someone i liked was just dating me and seeing others at the same time with the same intentions.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (9 February 2014):
 Maybe it's quick, but where's the problem ? they did not get married, they did not had kids together, they did not go live together, they did not buy property together....
They got " the title " a bit sooner than you or other girls might have chosen to do, but , nobody forced them, that's what they wanted to do and felt like doing.
If it doesn't work- no big deal. They can always go back on their decisison, and undo what they have done so far. They are , I presume, 18-21 - and with no baggage. It will be very easy to take a step back if they change their mind .
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (9 February 2014):
 Like I just read in a blog somewhere, in Norway we don't really date. So I have no idea what the "normal" amount of dates are before you are in a relationship. Custom here, where I am from anyway, is that if you like someone romantically, and they like you back, and you get together, then you are in a relationship.
Now, whatever you want to label it, "dating", "in a relationship", "seeing each other", it's all just the same, isn't it? Two people are hooking up, and doing whatever they want to do, with each other, and they are off the market and not seeing anyone else. So whatever you call it, it is what it is.
Just because they are "in a relationship" doesn't mean they've rushed anything, because I don't see how it changes what they already had prior to this label. They're not getting married...!
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (9 February 2014):
 Does it matter what you or I think? It might work for them.
Wish her well.
Maybe they will work out long term, maybe they don't, but if they feel it's right then what's the problem?
3 dates and then dating, IS fast, but it's not like they have their wedding planned for next month is it?
I set my best male friend up with one of my really good female friends 24 years ago, they started dating after that first date - been married for 21 years. So obviously they were a good fit.
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