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writes: I tried to tell a friend that her man had cheated on her and going around town trying to talk to everyone. She wanted me to tell her at first then said she didn't want to know then told me who ever he is sleeping with it won't be for long because they moving. That pissed me off and made me think very low of her as a woman. My last message to her was "coochiee lives everywhere! have not talked to her since. I seen her at the hair dresser and she tried to act like she didn't know why we not speaking. Should I leave her alone and stop being her friend, and if not what in the world would I say to her, she still with him and planning to have his baby and get married. He is a dope dealer and said he will never keep a job, or change pampers but he told my husband that, she has one kid and maintaining I just don't want her to get two and be alone cuz he in jail.What should I do! She was a cool friend to talk too, but had her downfalls, we sit on Gmail together but don't speak.
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reader, PsyCookie  +, writes (3 September 2008):
 I feel for you! I seriously do. I have had friends who I've given serious advise (I tend to let them do whatever they want and only intervene when it's serious) and they're so hard headed and end up not listening to me!
But please, one big thing I gotta tell you is to NOT stop being friends with her. DON'T do that.
You tried your best. You were a good friend by warning her about her fiance's doings. She didn't listen and she probably won't at all, and sadly you can't do anything about it. You can give her the evidense you want, she will not believe you. What's worse is that she will marry a dope dealer, someone who nobody should be associated with.
The only thing you have left to do is to let her fall on her own and pick her up in that moment. This is why it's so crucial for you to not stop being her friend because in that moment she will really need one. At that moment, help her in everything. Be a great friend.
So, now try to start talking to her. Don't ask for forgiveness because you have nothing to be sorry about, but to start talking to her you could say to her "I know we have our differences, but I consider you my friend and I always want to look for your best. Let's stop not talking anymore because I miss talking". And pick up from there. If you desire, you could leave her with a warning: "This guy will end up screwing your life and you will end up miserable, but at that time... I'll be there for you". Don't discuss anything from that point. If she protests, tell her you will ignore that.
Sorry again to hear that. I too have friends who act like that and I know how it frustrates you. But please, never abandon her.
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