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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hey. I'd like some advice regarding my friend.Last Saturday, I started uni. One of my best friends has also come to the same uni as me, same accommodation but different course.I didn't think going to the same uni would be a problem as we didn't plan it and we're on different courses. The problem is that my friend isn't very sociable, wanting to stay in every night to talk to her boyfriend. She's also homesick. I'm not homesick at all and would rather go out more and socialize. She just seems to be clinging on to me and the people in my corridor: she's not making her own friends. As a result, people now think I'm always with her. She's homesick and needs support but I feel like I'm missing out to what uni would be like if she wasn't here as well. I know it's selfish but it's really starting to get to me. I find it difficult to mix with people now as it's been a week and people have already started to bond. Plus, I don't know anyone on my course yet so it's not like I have a back up. I know I need to do stuff on my own a lot more and make more of an effort to socialize. But what else can I do? I really need to get a move on with this as I feel like I've wasted opportunities with this already.Thanks in advance.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (1 October 2010):
 Well yes try and support this girl if she is homesick it cant be easy, try talking to her and advising her to maybe talk to some of the girls on her course, tell her that it would be easier for her if she made friends on the same course as her and more people she can talk to, as for going out socializing well i know you want to be independant and stuff but maybe plan some nights out with others you know but also invite this girl, dont just ditch her try and get her out enjoying herself aswell, as for people on your course why not invite a few of them on a night out and see how it goes. I know you want your freedom but dont try and push this girl out completely as that would be really unfair.
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