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writes:im realli worried about my friend!!!she is 14 and she has slept with loads and loads of guys, all ages too. she is sleeping around ti make her self popular and i cant get it through to her that thats all they r after, she thinks havin sex with loads of boys will make them all like her and make her fit in but it wont!!! she is 14 like i said and she has slept with boys from 13 to 30!!1 its discuting!! how can i tell her to stop,how can i explain they r using her!!she doesnt listen and i dont knw what to do. she has already had 2 abortions and about 70 clamidia texts!!!she really scares me. i love her to bits she has been one of my best friends since nursery we r now in yr 10what can i do!!!! plz help!!!i will really apprieiate anyones answersty x
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2007): Your friend doesn't deserve such a good friend like you. She is far too young to be having sex never mind having 2 abortions already, you're right it is disgusting and she wants to be ashamed of herself. Your friend maybe popular for the time been but she'll get a name for herself eventually, then what will she be apart from a Slapper with the clap!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2007): Unfortunetly you cant stop anyone from doing anything, they have to stop becuase they want to stop. Maybe the best thing you can do is talk to her parents about her behavior how you are concerned about her, dont think that this is tattle tailing on her becuase your only trying to help her becuase your obviously a great freind. Explain to your freind the consequences of her decisions, like teenage pregnancy, HIV, rape....
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2007): Well, this may be a radical thing to do, but have you ever considered that because you are still her friend, she sees no consequences to her behavior that she cares about?
Just by association with her, you may be getting the same reputation for sleeping around. Tell her that you value yourself enough not to put yourself in that position and if she doesn't get some help (therapy) to find out why she is so self distructive and why she is so irresponsible, you will not associate with her as you don't condone her activity. It is sort of like dealing with a drug addict. She is addicted to sex, her drug of choice.
You have to let the addict hit bottom, you have to stop enabling them by taking on their problems and trying to solve them for them, you have to let them lose friends, posessions, and flunk out of school until they finally realize that they are their own worst enemy.
Sorry to say.
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reader, cd206 +, writes (13 May 2007):
 I don't think you can stop her from having sex if thats what she wants to do. The best possible thing you could do is advise her to get tested for Chlamydia which can cause infertility and various other problems and while she is being tested get some free condoms so that if she must sleep around at least she's not running the risk of pregnancy and the side effects of STD's, some of which can't be cured and can cause death.
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reader, love-him +, writes (13 May 2007):
 its like the situation to drugs, once they are addicted no one, not even the longest friendship and most wonderful friendship can stop her doin this. you jsut gota let her do it, make sure she has ur support and be ther for her when it all fails to impress people. seriosuly chick jus make sure she jnows what is happenin 2 her body and also make sure she knows they only want sex. one day she could be raped, explain how baed that wud be fore her, and also, if u cud possibly tell a teacher or adult about it, then the people aged 30 will be in a lot of trouble, it may help her. i hope i helped, mail me if u wan 2 talk, my friend went through the same, and is now settled in a 6month relationship =] x x x
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reader, loretta +, writes (13 May 2007):
 first ov all its gud 2 hear she has a gud friend such as u, u av got ur head screewd on! maybe tell her that if she dosnt stop this then u will talk to her parents, reasure her that she dnt need attention from men n tell her that shes special all ready n that she will get a bad name 4 herself n will find it hard to get a relationship wen she leaves school coz every body would ov heard bout her. if this dusnt work then u will av to sit back n let ur mate learn from her mistakes. u have done everything a friend wud do n if she does carry on then its not ur fault. good luck keep me posted!xxxxxxxx
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