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36-40,
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writes:is she still angry cuz she still has heavy feelings for me and she knows she'll never have me in the manner that she wants me, otherwise i dont know why she wont speak too me. i had this friend who came out the closet...that didn't bother me, what bothered me is that she liked me and wanted me too be her gf aka me help her with her kids, she wanted her kids to call me mommy, us get a place together etc.....i said oh hell no, i don't date women and that me and you are just friends and that's all we will ever be, then i said how about we just lay off the hanging out for a while until you get over this. well she told me to TRY HER and i took that as a threat so i stopped hanging out with her for close to a year . she called me to hangout and i said how about we talk on the phone, she said no (so i figure that was a setup). i happened to see her the other day and she glared at me and was straight pissed off she said hi sasha with an attitude and kept staring at me, i said hi and smiled she just had this straight angry/glaring look on her face....i dont understand why would she still be so angry after a year.....if we were friends before all of this, then why cant we be friends now? this girl on girl crap is getting out of hand....and now i just keep to myself, i stopped trying to meet new people for fear of this shyt happening again...im skeptical of women now....i know its wrong to question someones sexuality but i dont appreciate being hit on by a chic, and i dont think they should be angry if the feeling isnt mutual...., too top it off i dunno if this now ex friend (whom i never thought id loose over a crush) is going to try and attack me when i least expect it....if shes still pissed after all this time i dunno what she may try and do too me. i thought since she was working shed find some new friends but i guess not... my friends say she fell madly in LOVE with me and obviously saw me as her girlfriend/woman and her feelings for me will NEVER go away...HELP MEsome say watch my back cuz she may try and kill me or hurt me physically because she doesnt want anyone to have what she had. we were just friends, well so i thought...from what i encountered this was all motive and her plan didnt work. im scared now i dunno what too do, i dont go out like i used too, i just keep to myself...i meet the weridest people.......we never did anything, if me spending time with you and your kids can make you fall in love me with then damn i guess i got hella skills.... im not into women therefore im not gonna kiss you, nor hold your hand etc....i told her all we can be is friends, i really truly cared about her and her kids, but she shouldnt have dropped feelings into it period. i told her we could talk about this aka we can be friends..but she wont accept that, shed rather hold anger and bitterness towards me forever....ive said i was sorry but i guess my sorries arent good enough.she cant make me like women, that would be my choice and i choose not too be with women.....i never said we couldnt be friends, thats something she cant accept....im not insensitive, i cared about her feelings thats why i kept it real with her....she wants what she wants, when she wants it and its her way or no way...so.......i don't take glares and smirks too lightly...that tells me you have something up your sleeve
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2012): Hi,The way you dealt with the situation was tactful: you were honest and said you couldn't return her feelings. Now my concern is how your ex-friend dealt with it: she dealt with rejection very poorly. It sounds like she has big mental health issues. Like the previous poster said let go of that relationship completely, end it and by that I mean don't even try greeting her on the street anymore. Also as you would stop being friends with a guy who's in love with you because you don't love him and don't want to give him false hopes, you should forget about remaining friends with a lesbian who's madly in love with you. If you do, she'll take it (in her distorted perception) as you being afraid of more and keeping her at that level for comfort. Laying off hanging out for a year won't work in her case, in short, it'd never end. If you feel threatened by her in any way, I strongly advise you to talk about it to your family, friends even report it to the police (in any case get some advice on how threatening situations are dealt with ASAP). Please don't hide, and stop meeting new people because of her. Good luck!
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (24 July 2012):
 If she was your friend, she would have approached you with the idea that you would probably turn her down. Doesn't she know you well enough to know you like men?
If I was in this situation, I would let it go. Life is too short to waste on people like this. There is no way to talk with her about it as she probably would not understand anyway.
Whatever you do, don't act like this is your fault. Don't hide away in your apartment...get out and enjoy your life. The problem is hers, not yours. If she can't be friends, accept that that is ok and move on. If she is bitter, that is her problem. Do not succumb to other peoples issues.
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