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writes: i'm close too my friends girlfriend and shes really nice pretty much the perfect girl. she thinks the world of her boyfriend and believes he would never cheat on her, the only problem is that he does all the time. shes often asked me if i would tell her if he cheated on her or just "let her go on looking stupid" what should i do??? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2006): If he is as bad as you make out then you have to tell her - she souinds like a nice person and you can't stand around and watch this happen as you are just as guilty.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2006): I would say do it. Why? Because if I were being cheated on, and I found out people knew but didn't say anything, I would be really angry, I would have nothing to do with anyone that knew about it but kept it from me.
This poor girl is nievely going through life thinking she is with a great bloke, you never know she might end up pregnant or married to him, and if she finds out then things will be a lot more difficult for her.
You say she is really nice, pretty much perfect, she does deserve better (maybe you?? ;) )
I'm not sure the best way to tell her, but make sure you give her enough to go on, you don't want her boyfriend to lie his way through it and make out that you are making it up because your jealous. I told a girl once about her boyfriend who always cheated on her - this girl was much the same as the one you describe. She was really in love with this guy and thought the world of him. It took a good few months for them to finally end it. She was utterly ruined for months, but she's come through it a happier and wiser person who will no doubt meet someone she deserves!
Good luck to you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2006): Looks like i'm the only one here who's not sure about what to do!
I was in the same situation a while back! My mate (lad) was going out and kissing other girls and made it out like he was doing something wrong, he even cheated on her whilst he went on a lads holiday, which i found out about! To my suprise though she never did and this was last August, so till this day she has no idea.
It's wrong i know, there is no excuse for it, I however decide to keep my mouth shut, I know if I told her which on so many occasions i was dying to as its not fair her not knowing, I didn't!
Why i don't know, of anything its beacuse i don't want to be stuck in a situation where i'm in the middle of two of my good freinds, either way if i said anything i would lose one of them and i don't want to.
I guess it was all brushed under a rug, which is bad the past always comes back to haunt you, all i know is its nothing to do with me, i'm not apart of thier relationship so i decided to say nothing, this is my experience though, maybe you should look into things more and have a picture of what might happen if anything was said.
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reader, rasoncason +, writes (26 July 2006):
you should tell her. you will save her the heartahce of her finding out herself.
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reader, Angelicc  +, writes (26 July 2006):
 Tell her, if she means anything to you, you'd tell her as no one desevres to be cheated on and lie to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2006): I agree I think you should tell if your absolutely sure otherwise you'll look like the fool. Tell her before she's been embarrassed by this f***ing slimy dickhead.
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reader, chazx +, writes (26 July 2006):
 Hello
I Think that you should tell your friend if you are 100% deffinate he has been cheating you shouldnt keep something like this away from her because she has the right to know.
any man that decides to cheat doesnt deserve a decent girl because cheating is one of the worse ******* things i can think a guy could do to someone.
(for anyone to cheat it discusts me)
Good Luck and i hope you do the right thing.
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