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writes:i think my boyfriend loves me alot more than i love him ... i want to love him , but just dont feel that i do .however i feel as though i have no other choice ... i always think it may get better but can never be sure.he is so nice to me and always shows his love and affection... i dont seem to show it back because i dont have much for him Reply to this Question
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reader, bonym +, writes (31 July 2006):
 You said: however i feel as though i have no other choice ... i always think it may get better but can never be sure
Are you serious? You really have NO other choice? Its not fair to this guy to be with him when you dont really want to be BE with him. He will only grow more and more in love with you and you will become frustrated and feel trapped. You need to be gentle with him, tell him exactly how you feel. xXx
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reader, Jadzia1127  +, writes (26 July 2006):
 Your questions leaves a lot of questions unanswered. Considering you're female, (for men have no clue why women, and how to get women, to fall in love) to state he loves you more then him is an interesting statement.
Women are seduced and fall in love using their brains. Which means in your situation:
1. He is so nice and wonderful and you have convinced yourself you don't deserve someone as good as him. Then get counselling.
or 2. He is not meeting your 'needs'. He could be too passive, too aggressive, too anti-social, too anything or not enough of anything. Then a straight and honest talk about what you need from him will help get you on the right track.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2006): Stop wasting his time then, but before your break the news to him re check your feelings one final time. Don't mess him around and go for a clean break.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2006): if u don't feel the same way you should break up with him it's not fair to him to carry on like that. I have been through it to the girl i was with did the same to me for months i loved her so much and did all i could for her but she didn't give a shit about me and hurt me like crazy
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2006): May I please suggest you break-up with him now? Just because someone is nice to you, doesn't mean you are obligated to him. Just thank him and be on your way.
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