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writes:The guy I was seeing (for two months) ended things when I told him I was moving to another part of town. He said it was because he started talking to his ex again but I knew the real reason. Anyway, although I moved to another part, I still hang out in the old town to see my friends. He's always there. After a month of not seeing him, I ran into him. He still pursued me. I told him I didn't want anything to do with him (because "he is back with his ex"- you know using his excuse). He told me he is not with her. Now he texts me every week telling me he is not with her.I knew he used the whole "ex thing" as a ego thing. We spent a lot of time together and he treated me like a girlfriend. I knew he liked me a lot and I knew he didn't want me to move. The problem is.. I keep running into him. It is so awkward because he stares at me and if I'm talking to one of his guy friends, he comes up and tells me he's not worth it.I first tried being civil, then I tried ignoring him. I don't really know what to do anymore. He's always trying to get my attention. I just want to move on! Any advice? And before you say stop going to the place where you see him, I have to this weekend. There's a party for a friend. This will be the last weekend I'm in the town for a while though! Just need to get through this weekend!
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reader, shane in dallas +, writes (11 October 2009):
 You left out a major part: why was your moving, in the same town even, such a major issue? But I'll go with what you did write...
If he wasn't truly honest with his answer about his ex, then he seem emotionally immature. That isn't so bad if you know that then you can work with it. And if seeing each other out is still an issue, then there are still emotions there. You need to have an honest open discussion. Lay it all out there: Do you still want a relationship? Would he get over his fears seeing that you're still around even though you moved? Can he reciprocate and put in the effort to visit you since you visit his area? What is the middle ground that would help you start your relationship back up?
The rest (him telling you other guys aren't worth it, the ignoring, etc) are all just petty games.
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