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writes:I am married with two children. A few months ago my friend came to live with us. She is not disrespectul or rude but my husband thinks she has something against him, just because she doesn't initate conversation with him. She has her personal issues when it comes to men but doesn't have a problem with my husband. But he thinks to seem so and its causing a real problem, even to the fact he wants her gone. What to do? I don't think this a good behavior to someone who is temporarily in need. Reply to this Question
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (10 February 2011):
 I think he just doesn't like sharing you with her. Men often feel threatened by our girlfriends, even though most would never admit it. But if it's starting to put a strain on your relationsh she should go. You've allowed her to stay for a few months, that's long enough. It's time for you and your husband to have your privacy back and retain your couplehood with one another. I'm sure she'll understand. There could be more brewing than you realize so don't fight him on this one.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (10 February 2011):
 Ok well you say your friend has issues with men in general. Have you explained this to your husband. If she cannot bring herself to have a conversation with him then I understand where your husband is coming from. It is his home as well as yours and I guess he just wants to feel like she appreciates him for letting her stay and just wants to feel like she doesnt have something against him.
I think you need to talk to your friend and tell her how your husband is feeling. Its the best for all of you and maybe she can start making more of an effort. If she has a problem with all men this could be the first steps for her on building back the respect of males as she will need to learn to have conversations with men to get on in life.
So yeah i think you should have a quiet word with her and just explain to her that your husband feels like she doesnt like him for some reason and ask her could she try a little harder. As if she doesnt this could cause a lot of arguments and tension in the house therefore I think it is best you talk to her. Goodluck Sweetie.
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