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writes: Hi, my friend has a major obsession with internet porn. When ever she invites me over I always see her looking at porn. It's really bugging me now. When I invite her over my house, she goes on my computer and downloads it so I'm the one who gets the blame. She even does it when we're in school which is the worse place to do it. She's also underage and is always blaming me for the porn downloads. I've tried everything to stop her but when ever she has the chance to use the internet, it's always porn. One day I managed to tell her parents but they told me that she wouldn't do such a thing like that. She's really obsessed with porn and it's driving me mad. I've talked to her about it and she doesn't care and when I tell her that I'm not her friend any more she says that she's going to commit suicide or make my life a living hell. Before she started being a porn addict she was always good in class, always got the high marks and grades but now she's failing in everything. I've stood by her ever since we were kids. She's like a sister to me but I don't know what to do! Any advice would be brill!
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reader, Wendyg  +, writes (22 October 2005):
 You dont say how old she is ? But then you do say that your at school.. Im thinking that maybe she has a few insecurites with her own body and maybe looking at this porn images shes hoping she can maybe have a body like the females in them... its not unusual for us to fantasise and to think about sex from our teen years, its only natural, shes probably curious and has now got a taste for it.. it probably is quite innocent, and shes just got a little carreid away with it.. ask her why it is she does it ? she will probably tell you... maybe something happend to her and shes using this as some kind of void... just talk to her. try to understand why shes doing it ? there is probably something that started it off... some of us just go through phases, perhaps shes in one of those phases now... she might not be as avid doing it in a couple of months shes just seeing whats about and shes got the bug for it... but do talk to her find out if you can why shes chooses to spend alot of time doing this and perhaps after shes has told you it will the two of you to understand each other, dont walk away from her, be a friend and she if you can help her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2005): Hmmmm... Porn doesn't change personality or create attitude leading to failing grades. Something else is going on. Something deeper emotionally or perhaps drug related. Ask the right questions and start thinking about more positive forms of intervention.
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reader, lissy09 +, writes (22 October 2005):
Really talk to her. Tell her that she has a problem and needs help.
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