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writes:Hi Guys, I'm in a sort of sticky situation. I love my boyfriend to bits and I love my friends too. But the problem is - they hate eachother. When I first started going out with him, my friends made fun of us and kept on saying nasty things about him. I got really angry so they stopped. But they still don't like him.My boyfriend overheard some of the things they said and now he doesn't like them either.Whenever I'm with my friends, my boyfriend doesn't come over and talk to me, and visa versa with my friends.I tried talking to them both, but they still can't stand each other.I don't want to end it with my boyfriend, and I don't want to lose my friends either! What shall I do?!Thanks xxxxxx Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks to 'for a reason' for advice! I've talked to my friends and my boyfriend and tried to spend equal amounts of time with them! Thanks again! xxx
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reader, for_a_reason +, writes (23 October 2008):
 From experience this situation isn't a nice one to be in at all. When I met my current boyfriend I was living in a house with four other girls and we spent every minute together - then boom, boyfriend comes along and I'm spending every minute with him instead.
Your friends are jealous... Not in a bad way - they just miss you and don't want to share you with a boy, which is completely understandable. If they're not in relationships themselves it's likely that they envy that you're with someone.
There isn't much you can do except take it on the chin and the situation will get better with time. They'll bitch and moan behind your back, but then after a while they'll get bored and find something different to gossip about.
The best advice I can give you for the time being is to spend time with your boyfriend and your friends separately. Don't force him on them and likewise don't force them to spend time with him. Make the effort to spend time with your friends, and DON'T spend the time talking about your boyfriend. If you're going out of your way to keep both parties happy, your friends will soon see that you're not 'ditching them' for a boy - but that they're still important to you too.
Good luck hun!
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