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writes:Hey, i need help. my friend and i like the same guy, she knows i like him and i think he likes me, but i dont know if i should tell her, and im scared that if he asks me out i wont know what to say. i dont want to hurt her or him... any suggestions. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2009): You have to evaluate how much you the like as well as the value of your friendship with this girl. First of all, do you see some sort of future with him? does he fulfill the criteria you would want in someone with whom you'd have a long term relationship? If the answers to those questions are yes then you need to figure out if you're friend would give up the possibility of a relationship for you. Is she a good friend, is she always there for you? You don't want to give this up only to find out that she wasn't worth it. Or worse, that she never liked the guy that much. So talk to her if you do really like him. If she's a good friend, she'll understand.
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reader, eringreen09 +, writes (22 February 2009):
 i went through this exact situation in highschool. i had 2 best friends, and all of us secretly liked the same guy. well, we all found out, and became extremely jelous of one another, and started fighting because, of course, each of us was mad that we kept it from the other person. all in all, honesty is always the best option in this situation. your best friend is one of the most important people you will ever encounter in your life, and if you are both honest, and talk to eachother (and keep it calm, just talk about it) you can both come up with a soloution. if he really does like you, and i would find that out from him first hand, i would also tell him about the situation, and make him understand that its a really tough decision, and tell him that you would appreciate the support. just dont turn it into a drama filled situation. friends are always there for you, and this boy may not be.
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