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*ringreen09
writes:i started seeing this guy, and i am really falling for him. i find out today that he might be bi. im totally straight, and i dont know if im really comfortable with the fact that he likes guys too. if i was left for a another guy, i wouldnt really know what to think. im all for homosexuality, and i want to understand him as much as i can, but ive been through a lot of bad relationships, and i dont want to get into something thats going to be really complicated and possibly heartbreaking. hes absolutely amazing, sweet, generous, and responsible.. everything ive been looking for! do you think this will just end up badly, or is there a chance it will work out for the best? Reply to this Question
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reader, minex  +, writes (4 March 2009):
darling, just remember it's exactly the same as him being attracted to girls, just because he has the capability to be attracted to guys doest mean he's going to jump on every Tom, Dick and Harry. i agree ith the first comment, i can see hy you're concerned, but you should't really be :) I'm a bisexual guy myself, and it hasn't effected any of my past relationships. I'm sure it will all be fine, if you want to talk to a bisexual guy about problem or worries concerning your bf, then feel free to talk to me confidentially :)
hope it all pans out smoothly
Minex.
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reader, loving arms +, writes (22 February 2009):
Labels, labels,labels isn't it amazing how we throw them around? If your man had been 'straight' would you worry about him fancying every woman he passed? Are you likely to run off with some other guy?. Exactly, there is no reason for him to stop loving, wanting you. Life is about the relationship we are in, not the one we left behind.
Just relax, none of us know the future, but why stop something that feels so good because of what might happen?
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2009): I am gay and have alkays found the bi thing unsettling as well. I think I'd feel just the same as you are but have been told it is silly as if someone is a faithful person what does it really matter.
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reader, Mrs. Mom +, writes (22 February 2009):
 I think it's time to have an honest talk with him. Ask him if you two become exclusive, whether he will miss dating guys.
I think your concerns are legitimate. I don't think that bisexuals are naturally more unfaithful than hetero or homosexuals, but it's natural to worry whether someone who identifies as bisexual isn't just getting ready to make the leap to being gay.
Just give it time. DOn't give your heart away until you feel secure.
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