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writes: My boyfriend and I speak every day and we are not allowed to see each other, so we don't. He is 21 and I am almost 18. He has a perminant job and I'm almost finished at business college. Our past relationship didn't work coz I was young and he wanted to live his life, but he is over that now and ready to commit to me 100%. I feel I am ready to move in with him and I know we will have good and bad days and sometimes hate each other, but I also know that I'm ready for that and ready to be independant. My mom wont even hear his name, so how do I make her understand that I want to move on and take this step in my life? How do I make her realise that she can't always choose who I date or who I want to marry? They dont know that we are smsing and phoning each other. They won't let me see him so I have to speak to him every day. He just wants to take me away and make me happy but I'm scared to approach my parents coz I don't know how they'll take it or if they will ground me for life or send me away. I don't want to lose him, but it should be my choice. How do I do this?
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reader, uonlyliveonce  +, writes (9 June 2006):
 your 18 and what you do is completly up to you not your parents, they must have pretty strong reasons for not even wanting to hear his name and without knowing why they feel like this its hard to give you much advice they may just be trying to protect you.
and when your 18 they cant really ground you, you can just leave home andgo to your boyfriends if you want to. if your serious about this lad then you have to ask yourself is it serious enough for you to want to cause trouble with your parents for a while?
they will carm down eventually your their daughter but it all depends on what happened before and why they feel the way they do
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reader, delsweepo +, writes (8 June 2006):
there must be reasons as to why youre parents dont want you involved with this boy.has he approached them to plead his case.he obviously cares about you if he is settling for sneaked calls and texts.youre parents must have concerns,at the end of the day you are 18 and able to make youre own descisions rightly or wrongly.you both should approach youre parents and discuss youre relationship.you obviously care what youre parents think or you wouldnt be in this dilema.its you stuck in the middle.maybe its time for a compromise..good luck
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