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writes: I'm a 14 year old girl with a 17 year old bf. I have never met someone quite like him and I really know I love him and hope this relationship will work out. My parents have met him and said they liked him but won't ever let me see him because of the age difference. Me and him are perfect for each other, I know it. I told my mom and dad I don't plan on having sex until I'm a lot older, and they still wont let me see him. Every time I try talking to them about it, they just won't listen and tell me "I'm your parent, now you listen to me". I know they are worried about me but how can I make them see past the age difference and let me see him? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2007): im 17 and my girlfriend is 14 and her parents know me well they know that i want to finish school before i get a girl pregnante. We love eachother a lot i would do anything for her so i know how you feel just keep talking to your parents.
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reader, pops +, writes (25 August 2005):
Listen to your parents, and do as they advise. You are too young to be dating a boy that old. What is wrong with him that he wants to socialize with a girl your age. 3 years difference will not be a lot to consider when you both are in your late twenties, but at your age, it is a major gulf. And should be. He should be dating girls his own age. Tell him so. And make him wait to date you until you have grown older and wiser. A senior in high school lives in an very different world than a freshman. Its not wrong that you are attracted to him. Young girls are always attracted to older boys. It part of how you learn what the man in your future should be, and you will compare any man you date seriously to your own father, whether you will admit or not. And, that is normal, too. Give those 14 year old boys a chance, and tell the older guys to date someone their own age.
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reader, Anastasia  +, writes (24 August 2005):
 HOney I am hearing what you are saying but I must agree with your parents. Thing is you are pretty young already and even though you say you won't have sex does not mean that this guy does not want to. I know it is frustrating but listen to your folks...they usually have foresight into things we are too blinded by love to see. It is not just the age difference they are looking at.
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reader, Em +, writes (24 August 2005):
Hey, that sounds like a very difficult situation, similar to one that i have been in also found myself in. Firstly you need to approch it very carefully as the bigger the situation is blown out into, the unnecessarily worse it could get. I was wondering what sort of situation your parents met him in, whether it was formerly where they could get to know him as well as they would like or whether they couldnt get to know him as well as they would like. Either way, try, again talking to your parents in an adult and mature way (not that im sure you havent already) but try to make them understand your situation, and let them know that you understand how they are feeling as they only want to protect you as you are legally under age. I am also wondering whether you have talked to your boyfriend about it and whether he could say something subtley. If all else fails, although i probably should not say this, you could always see him anyway as they may realise by this that you really care for eachother. I hope that helps
stay safe xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2005): I'd just talk to your Mum and Dad about him. Say about sex and say that you do really like him. They are only saying this to protect you! Remember thay know best. If they still say no just ask them why. Good luck
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