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writes: I have a g/f and she asked me out. We are dedicated to each other and see each other most of the time. My parents are split up so I see her every other week. My Dad and Stepmum hate her. I love her, shes my g/f. Do I listen to my parents or choose my own road? Please Help!
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reader, chaseeckles  +, writes (2 July 2009):
im 14 and ive been with my girlfriend for 7 months now.. we love eachother and we want to spend the rest of our lives together but my dad and stepmom wont let me see her so i have to sneak around and hope i dont get caught.. we are affectionate but were still virgins ( she is only 13 ) they dont like her because of false rumors that go around about her and i try to tell them that rumors go around about everybody but they refuse to listen and its tearing me apart.. i dont like my stepmom and my dad has changed since being with her.. which ultimateley means im a ton more happier when im with my girlfriend.. somebody please give me advice i love her more than any other human being and i cant lose her..
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reader, Kayleighbaby95  +, writes (30 August 2008):
I think u should talk to ur dad and step mum trying to convince them that she isnt that bad or maybe they say that they dont like her because they are over protective of u honey x
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reader, PETER189 +, writes (3 June 2008):
 Spaz i know how you feal. my g/f is a goth and im well, me, dont liesen to your parents. its your life and as long as you both love and care about each other leave it that way. tell your parents to leave you to get on with your own life. i hope this has helped and if you wanna talk you can ask me for my e-mail address and i will try to help peter [last name removed]
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2008): Hi my B.F's parents hate me too. They are always making comments about me behind my back. It really hurts my feelings, and I have no idea why they hate me so much. I don't trust his parents and would never confide in them.Besides causing a big fight over some little thing that I do they make fun of me.I suggest breaking up with your girlfriend because your life, and your girlfriends will become hell. Spare her the greif.Your parents will be happy but not for long. They will find something else to make your life hellIf this is the case then it's not your girlfriend it's your parents. Think about it do they hate your friends and other people around you? In the past have they been rude to others?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2005): It is really up to you, but honestly are they going to be the one's making your decisions for you? Do you want to live by their standards constantly. Honestly Myself I have been in a serious relation ship for a year and a half. My Boyfriends parents hate me. I'm not sure why, but never the less me and my boyfriend have always pulled through in the end. Sure it has hurt our relationship a couple of times, but in the end it was worth it. I think it really depends if you are in this for the long hall and it also depends if you want to try to solve the problem between your parents and your girlfriend or just let it slide. My suggestion is if that if you truley like this girl alot and want it to work out well between her and your parents, you should try to get them to bond, maybe some activity, or if they are not comfertable yet, maybe just reveal some qualities that you like about her, and maybe they will see it in her also. Well bud, I hope it works out for you. Trust me I know how hard it gets.
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reader, Chris +, writes (19 April 2005):
Hi,Personally I think that if you love her you should stand by her, and if your family love you then they will respect you for loving the person you're with.I hope this helps!
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (11 April 2005):
 The descision is ultimately yours, but having said that, your folks have a lot of years of experience between them, so it's worth considering their opinion.Ask them (or ask yourself) why they "hate" her? Is is because she looks or dresses a certain way? Is it from ignorance because she's a different class to you, or from a different culture? Or is it for a more profound reason, like she's mean to animals, or she fights with people or has chemical dependancies?You're the one who makes the final choice, but listen to their reasons for not liking her and consider whether their reasons are valid. Maybe your folks are just narrow-minded because she's a goth, or some other superficial reason. But if they point out that she shoplifts or compulsively tells lies, they might have a point, and could save you some heartache in the future.Hope this helps.
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