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writes:Engaged but boyfriend's friends are always around. What should I do?I've been with the same guy for 10 yrs. I'm 25 and he's 28. We've been engaged for 2 yrs and have two boys together 6yrs and 2wks old. My boyfriend works comes home showers then his friends blow his phone up wit text messages wanting to chill and smoke weed. This happens everyday! Even on days when he's off from work and I'm sooo sick of it. They come over our house or he goes over theirs- but it's constantly everyday. We hardly spend time together. This has been going on during my pregnancy and now after. I hate how annoyed I am over this. It's driving me crazy! What should I do? Am I overreacting?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2010): you are not overreacting at all. you're woman you set rules in house. please talk to him about it
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (20 April 2010):
 If you are unhappy , you should talk to him about it. He cannot read your mind and he is probably thinking that you do not mind .He can get carried away and forgets about spending time with you .
You need to let him know where are your limits and boundaries.
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reader, Not My Name  +, writes (20 April 2010):
 Have you told your guy all of this?
If not do so, and tell him that if he wants to make a marriage work, he is going to have to start treating the family as a priority or there is no point following through with the wedding.
Try to get his to agree on a certain amount of nights he can go out with friend, nights they can come over, and nights that are for the family.
I would also suggest you insist he keep a bit of that money he is spending on weed (if not kicking it altogether) and to take you out once a month so you have time to connect as a couple and focus on each other.
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