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male
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hi there, hopefully someone can help me out with this!I just need to get my head straight really.Simply put, my problem is that I can't stand my fiancee's friend. I don't have a problem with the rest of her friends, just this one.I used to be fine with her, until I went on holiday, and she started telling my then girlfriend (now fiancee) that I would probably cheat on her. I know I am 100% faithful to my gf and I'm sorry but surely a friend should comfort you in such a situation? Ok so that was the start of it, but since then I've realised that this 'friend' really doesnt seem to care about my gf, she used her all the time to borrow her passport to get into clubs, borrowed money (100s of pounds) and NEVER paid it back, even after repeated requests.She lies to my gf about being ill and not being able to see her, when really she is off out partying with her other mates (we found this out a few times by calling her house). Still though, my gf insists on seeing her. When they are together this friend also tries to get my gf to smoke, which is something I am against.Basically, I think this friend is a really bad influence. She doesnt seem like a true friend to my fiancee. She has real friends that I like and respect. I am not the kind of person to stop her from seeing her friend, but I just don't know what to do because it is worrying me and getting to me a lot.Thanks!
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reader, penta  +, writes (24 April 2007):
 I'm afraid I agree with eyeswideopen here. Anything you do to point out this friends' flaws will cause your fiance to start defending her. Your best option is to try to be there when it falls apart.
In the meantime, you can try to invite friends of hers who you do like to visit more often. Maybe if she spends more time with them she'll have less time to spend with the other one? It's small, but it's something.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (24 April 2007):
 Nothing you can do here. Just hope and pray that your fiancee will wake up and smell the coffee and dump this friendship. Until then just try roll with the flow.
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