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writes:Dear Cupid,This is my first time using the site and I really need some relationship advice. My Fiancee, (I have known her for 6 years) and I have a problem The problem is, I'm a lot smarter than her. Normally, in the relationship this hasn't been a problem because we get along great, we can talk for hours and we have sexual chemistry and love each other more than anyone else. We have been engaged for about a year and some problems are starting to come up with our families and work related situations. This has been causing me a lot of stress and I've had pneumonia 3 times this year, being an asthmatic this is starting get to the point of it being dangerous. My Fiancee is EXTREMELY needy. I can't even go away for a week on a work-related trip without coming home to her sobbing and attacking me because I left her alone. I keep trying to convince her that these are things I NEED to do. But she's blaming me for telling the truth, she's blaming me for my absence! She's being rediculious! I thought it was because I was practically the valedictorian and that she isn't as smart as I to understand these things but maybe it doesn't have anything to do with that. I love her, and I want to be there for her in every way and I know she loves me. She'd give up everything for me. But she's the main source of my stress. How can I get her to see I need to leave and that I will come back? And how can I get her to cope and survive while I'm gone without going from Dr. Jeckyle to Mr. Hyde and treating me like the enemy?I honestly don't know what to do.Please help me.Sincerely,A man in Need...
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2009): I have a similar problem where my girlfriend gets upset if im gone for just one day! My girlfriend isn't necessarilly les smart than me but girls can be more irrational sometimes. Your fiancee is probably a bit on the irrational side. I found the best thing to do is expain why you neede to be away once but then if she argues just walk away, go to the pub or a friends house or something because you will never be able to make her see it rationally!
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (15 November 2009):
 um, a man in need, your login indicates you are a female between the ages of 16 and 17.
Not showing your smarts too cleverly right now are you?
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