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*igger3165
writes:I was going through my fiance's profile on another site, and saw that about 2 or 3 weeks before my fiance and i met, he was telling his ex how much he loved and missed her. And days before we started dating (after we had already told eachother that we had strong feelings for eachother, even used the word "love"), he told his ex that he hadn't met anyone who caught his interest. Then, i moved 500 miles to live with him, and a week before the move, he was commenting her (she still has a whole album of old pictures from when they were together up on one of her profiles), telling her how he spent some of the best days of his life with her, and how beautiful she is. I confronted him about it, and he said that he never really loved her, and that i had nothing to be jealous of. But i can't shake the feeling that he would leave me from her in an instant given the chance. Am i over reacting, and how can i shake this feeling?
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (26 August 2008):
 Stand your ground. You should never share your man with an ex. And he needs to let go of this woman otherwise, he'll never have a future with you or anyone else for that matter. He needs to chose. Don't compromise. Best of luck.
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reader, Tigger3165 +, writes (10 July 2008):
Tigger3165 is verified as being by the original poster of the question to concerned88, thank you for your response... but i can honestly say that i don't do the whole rebound thing... but i never go into a serious relationship when i have lingering feelings for an ex... i had one ex that i had a dream about, and he asked me to cut off communication with that ex, so i did... but when i asked him to not talk to her anymore, he got really upset like he couldn't trust me, though i had more solid things to base my request on... then finally agreed when i pretty much said "fine, i'll go back to delaware then"... i just don't know what to do... i can't get married to him if i don't feel like i'm first in his heart.
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reader, concerned88 +, writes (8 July 2008):
ok when you love someone you will never lose those loving feelings. he needs to be honest but you need to be understanding. i know my fiance still cares for his ex as much as i care about mine, but we love each other to death. there is a reason she is an ex and you are his gf. you guys have to have an open conversation about it. the longer you guys are together the more comfortable you will feel about his past. you cant say theres an ex you have that you dont care about.
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reader, Basschick +, writes (8 July 2008):
Yes he probably would go back to her if she wanted him but apparently she does not. If you give it time, he will love you more and then you will feel better about your relationship. Alot of guys hang on to their ex'es until they find love somewhere else. Then they stop contacting the ex and focus on you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2008): I think that if he really loves you that he would not bother telling his ex that he loves her. I would dump him for what you heard or read!!!!
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