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writes:My best guy friend and I have been friends for a very long time.we hang out every day and love each other very much.Deep down I am IN love with him. I've never told him though,he even asked me if i like him and said no.He told me he would never date me because i deserve so much more than he could give me and that he doesnt think he could ever see us being all cuddly in public.He has a $12,000 car,a job,he gets straight A's in school.He is so handsome,and he has a good heart.He doesnt want a relationship right now,he tells everyone he's just looking for a good time,not anything serious for a LONG time.He always tells me Im beautiful,and i would make an amazing girlfriend,it just kills me to know that we'll never be together unless i wait around for ten years.And that would be stupid because thats wasting my life.and even then thats not garunteed.HOw do I make this pain go away when im constantly reminded because i see him everyday? How can i stop caring about him so much? someone please helpxoxo Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2008): He may have feelings for you, but feels inadiguate as a mate. Try telling him your feelings, it may backfire, but then again you may have found the love of your life. Life is about taking chances...some good, some bad. You never know unless you try. And if things don't work out, 30 years from now, you won't have to struggle with "What could have been." All my prayers Dear One.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2008): well he does sound like the perfect guy from what you've described, but perhaps there's a reason he's said you deserve much more than he can give you. i don't think you'll ever stop caring about him because it's natural for us to feel that way about people who are close to us but there are other ways to reduce the pain. you say that you spend everyday together, perhaps making new guy friends and spending time with them would help? or even existing guy friends? maybe this will help you take you take your mind off this particular friend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2008): You can't stop caring about someone. You need to explain to him how much you love him etc, and if nothing still budges, you need to go into unrequited love stages...
Yeah hell its painful, but distance yourself from him slightly, take different routes, don't talk to him etc, and talk to other people. Eventually, I promise, you will meet someone else that can love you now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2008): perhaps he doesnt want to go out with you because he doesnt want to break your heart and risk ruining the friendship. its just the way it is sometimes that we love someone in a more than friend way but they dont love us back. im sure you will find someone special one day though who you end the rest of your life with. take care. xx
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