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writes: My fiance wants a threesome, with another female. I'm a little uneasy about it, but I said I'd agree as long as I also got a threesome with another male. This way it would be fair. Now, I am bisexual. My fiance, we'll call him Bob for the sake of simplicity, said that it wasn't fair for me to want to bring in another guy, because I would enjoy a female just as much, where as he wouldn't get any jollies from another male. Now, I find this a little upsetting. Just because I also enjoy female's company in a romantic sense (or did, when I was single,) doesn't mean that all women get me off. I am more attracted to males as it is. Another problem Bob has is that he doesn't want the guys touching me and being more experienced than him. He's worried that I would enjoy their touch more than his. I'm also worried about something similar with a female, because most of the girls we both show some interest in are tall, beautiful model types who probably have a lot more sexual experience than me. I'm scared he's going to leave me for them because they are more attractive and more sexually advanced than I am, for lack of a better term. How do I go about handling this situation?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2010): I suggest you give something a try, but set yourself strict regulations. He must not touch the other female. He can be aroused by watching you with another female and he can enjoy being with you, but the other female is there for your benefit not his.
This can only happen if the other female is to your liking and with your approval.
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reader, Sara456  +, writes (16 June 2010):
You go, girl! You don't want to start off on a bad foot. If he keeps watching threesomes in porn, however, the fantasy will not go away for him. But hopefully he won't bring it up again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell about an hour ago Mr. "Bob" got home from work. I've had a nice little chat with my him after getting the first few answers and we've both agreed to put this off for good. With a little bit of my own selfishness to battle his, we've reasoned with each other that this would be a terribly stupid idea. We're in love, and frankly, we don't want to risk pain for either of us because of some stupid teenage decision. He confessed that it was mostly just curiousity brought on by porn (go figure V_V) and if it really upset me he could go with out it. I'm hoping that he's really gotten the idea out of his head, as it was a while ago that the initial conversation (the proposal of a threesome) happened.
I truely believe that Bob is the one for me, and I believe that wedding bells are truely in our near future. No one will get between us, I'm nearly certain. I just want to thank you all for your advice and answers.
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reader, Sara456 +, writes (16 June 2010):
BunnyTee is right. This is all about your boyfriend...and his selfishness, I might add.
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reader, BunnyTee +, writes (16 June 2010):
 This is ill-advised. From the sounds of things, this is already a mess. Like Carrot says: what will be left for you to do in college? Tell your b/f to pound sand, this is all about him and not you.
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reader, Sara456 +, writes (16 June 2010):
You are asking for trouble if you do a threesome. One never knows what lies ahead.
And OMG! You are still a teen as well. Why be engaged if you just wanna screw other people?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2010): He wants to bring in a woman because he prefers them, whereas you'd prefer a man for the same reason. The only reasonable compromise here would be a foursome.
But honestly, I strongly think that at age 16-17 you should forget the idea. At least for the time being.
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reader, Carrot2000 +, writes (16 June 2010):
 At 16 or 17, I doubt Bob has the ability to please one woman, let alone two. He'd probably cum in his superhero underoos before he even got anywhere near a female, and the threesome would be over before it even got started.
I just don't understand kids these days; if you have a threesome now, what are you going to look forward to when you go to college?
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (16 June 2010):
 16-17 and you and your guy are bored of each other already... threesomes are difficult and usually bring jealousy and nasty accusations..
It's your choice of course, but why isn't normal sex with just you and him enough?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2010): Ask yourself this question instead: Why are you engaged to a man who would want to share your with another human being whether it be male or female?
Honestly, when true love is the thread that binds two indivduals together, both individuals values the other, they respect each other, they honor each other, they want nothing but the best for each other.....do you in your hearts of hearts, and logic mind believe your relationship is build on the things I just metioned above? If not, then you may want to re-evaluate the situation...you may want to hold off on wedding plans.
Don't start something you can't finish....if you give in to your husband-to-be threesome request, you may live to regret it later on. There is a way that "seems" right, but it only leads to complete destruction. What if down the lines, having a threesome isn't enough for him and he wants to have an open marriage, or he wants to have a mistress on the side, or he wants to have sex with someone else for whatever the reason may be? Do you understand where I am going with this? You are opening yourself to be assasinated emotionally, physically, mentally and spiritually. You shouldn't not feel or believe that your boyfriend will leave you for some other woman....he is suppose to be past that point now that you are engaged. He is suppose to love you to the point if Angelina Jolie or Kim Kardashian or any other beautiful female walked past him naked...in the end he would always chose YOU without hesitation.
If neither of you kind that one must bring a third or fourth party into the relationship in order to "spice" things up, or to keep things from going "sore" or to "test the waters" then maybe you aren't meant for each other because, if there is one thing I no about true love.....true love doesn't want to share, and will not share that which they love, cherish, honor and hold in high regards with anyone.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (16 June 2010):
 You are 16-17? And worried about all the repercussions of a threesome? Frankly, it sounds like you aren't really ready for the potential consequences. It's probably a bad idea to go through with it, there will be too much emotional collateral damage. Why not just fantasize about it, use mirrors and masks and toys?
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