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writes: My fiance wants a threesome. He's had one before, I've never done it, but I'm curious. If I said yes I think it's gonna mess up our relationship. I really do love him. What should I do? Does this mean he's not satisfied with me? Isn't it like cheating?
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reader, lucygirl  +, writes (18 March 2007):
if it's something your truely interested in, which it seems like your not, then ask him more about it and learn more about why he wants to. do not do it just because its fantasy of his. if he is forcing you then maybe he's not the right one for you and he should consider your feelings.
But this does not necessarily mean that he's not satisfied with you. he may just want to try something new and exciting as a one time type of thing. also, i guess the cheating means engaging in some type of sexual acitivity with someone other then your partner, but if you are participating with him and allow him then it's not considered cheating. and if you think it is, then it's your fault for giving him permission to do so.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2007): ok love, if he wants a threesome, then maybe try spicing up yours n his sex life? he probably wouldnt be seeking a threesome unless he wasn't satisfied, but if you really dont want one then tell him he must choose just you or no one, after all he can't marry 2 people can he?
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reader, Yos  +, writes (17 March 2007):
 Most of the time threesomes seem to eventually destroy relationships. It is very hard to cope with the emotions such as jealousy and insecurity that can easily be unleashed. Some people do manage it, it really depends on the strength of your relationship, and how mature and able to communicate with each other you both are.
If you have any doubts at all then certainly don't do it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2007): What it means is that your fiance is immature....he wants to have a threesome because of a sexual fantasy, and if he really cared about making you happy, he would not want to do anything to jeapordize your relationship for a short lived cheap thrill.
It is OK to be curious, but if you want to errode the trust between you then go ahead and do the threesome, but be prepared for feeling left out, as three really is a crowd especially in the bedroom, how are you going to feel or how is he going to feel if the third partner gets most of the sexual attention.....I personally think this is a big turnoff, are you having another female? Are you bi-sexual? Are you having another man? Anytime there is more than one penis in the bedroom, it is about gay fantasies.....Don't you think that a certain amount of respect will be lost if you both actually go through with this....
I think this shows a true lack of commitment to your relationship, and I would be wary of marrying a guy who would submit me to a situation where I felt unprotected emotionally and sexually and where my intimacy with my partner was compromised by bringing in someone else...
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