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writes:My fiance is almost always staying over at his sister's house. Yes, she's married and has kids. Should I have anything to worry about?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI asked him last night does he view chatting on-line as cheating he said "no' because he is in a relationship and that basically he sees no need in chatting on-line if he's in a relationship. So, I guess my question was pretty much answered by him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe told me he was on the Internet. Yes, the line was busy. And as of right now, he is still at his sisters house. He called my house yesterday, at 12:30 from there and I was not here. So he didnt call my cell phone. I didnt find all this out until I got back to my house. So, when I get back I try to call him back at his sisters house. I've been calling like from 2:00 pm to 9:30 pm. No answer. Then when I finally do get to talk to him, he says he's been on the Internet the whole time!!! Now, this makes me wonder. And something else--the past 2 or 3 times he went to stay over at his sister and her husbands house, he hasn't really made any effort to call me. I've mostly been calling him while he was there. Any possible explanation of such strange activity?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2009): Thank you for the followup information. Yes, it's possible that he could be chatting online with other girls when he's at your sister's house. But I still need more information. For example, how did you know he was on the Internet? Was the line busy? He could just as easily be on the Internet when he is at home, unless he doesn't have a computer at his house or apartment.
Do you notice any kind of flirty behavior between him and his sister when they are together? Like do they talk suggestively to each other or make a lot of sex jokes? Or do they touch each other a lot? Since his sister is older there could be some sexual history between him and his sister that happened when they were younger. This kind of thing happens more often than people think. And it could even be happening now, even if his sister is married, like when her husband is away, especially if your fiance is over at her house when her husband is not there. But this would be harder to find out, unless you can find out when his first sexual experience was, and if the girl was his age, younger or older, and what the first sexual thing he did was.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHis mother is deceseased,as of like a year or 2 ago. But everytime I look he is always over there, and almost everytime I call there he has some time type of excuse as to not talk to me at the time. My mom and Dad always joke with me that when he is over there, he is seeing another girl. And thats why I'm asking these questions. When he's over there its like he ignores me.His sister is older than him.Oh, and last night he said he was going to call me back. So and hour passed and I hadn't heard from him. So, I called him at his sisters house, somebody was on the Internet apparently.I'm pretty sure it was him on-line. His nieces and nephews had to be in bed, this was like 11:30 last night. Whats the possibility he could be chatting online to someone?? I mean he keeps telling me to leave my cell phone on. But why? If he tells me he's going to call me back and doesnt. Then I wait. Then he doesnt call. So I call him back and find out he's on the Internet.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2009): It sounds like you suspect he is having some kind of sexual relationship with his sister? Is his mother still alive? If not, that could explain why he's always at his sisters. And is she older or younger than your fiance. Please respond with answers so that we can provide more information in resposne to your question.
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reader, NITRAM BLUE  +, writes (3 January 2009):
 Should I have anything to worry about?
None. You worry too much.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2009): You think he's doing something with his sister? I hope that wouldn't be the case but if he has a small family maybe him and his sister are just very close. Now if you worry about anything I would be more worried of him meeting another girl over there like one of her friends. Why don't you go over there with him?
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