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anonymous
writes:My fiance has been texting his ex girlfriend. Questioning her why she left him for another guy? We have been engaged for about a month now and I am expecting his baby in May. Should I stay with him or leave before he hurts me more?
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reader, rcn +, writes (1 April 2008):
 Now, how often has he been texting her. Some times, it's okay for someone to seek an unanswered question, that way they can heal. People who continue to wonder seem to have a more difficult time. He needs to come to realization here. She's not there, you are, and are having a baby. His feelings and sense of self are his and no one elses. He may be hurt from the past, but it's his decision on how to better himself and bring him out of where he is to a better sense of self.
I'd talk to him and find out what he wants to do. Let him know how this is affecting what you have with him, and try to come to a resolution.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2008): regardless of if he loves you or not his past could still be hurting him. he obvioulsy loved her at one point and not knowing the reason why she left could still be haunting him. try talking to him (be careful though as you did read his texts)
Find out how he feels about what happened. You are engaged and having a baby he loves you.
he may be struggling with the fact he was hurt in the past. feelings of hurt and betrayal dont go away so easily.
He probably feels he canttalk to you as he knows it would spark feelings that he likes her still.
i hope this helps
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2008): You need to know why he is still in contact and why he is asking her those questions. It would be unusual for him to do this if he is her ex and is your partner.
He may well be a bit overwhelmed about your pregnancy, perhaps this is putting some stress on him. However irrespective of this being some sort of trigger for him feeling perhaps doubt, he is handling that totally inappropriately. You need to know what his intentions are and NOW!
All the best.
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