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*orriedgf13
writes:If my boyfriend/fiancé has had a past life style of having sex with men can it be possible that he's no longer into that lifestyle since being in the relationship he has with me? This is what he claims is that it's over that past life style and he no longer thinks about it or desires it. So unsure of any of what's been said to me. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2014): I find it hard to believe to tell the truth.
I had few guys when I was single. Though I am married many years and have a child, and happyin my marriage I still remember my single days when I was dating and had exciting sex with handsome men.
I still get very much turned on when I see a gorgeous body, but I will never act on it. Do i think of it, of course I do, buti am not promiscuous and will not cheat.
One thingis never act on it , another to never think of it.
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reader, tinybutnotfangless  +, writes (8 October 2014):
 If he is bisexual, then he cannot just suddenly not be attracted to other men, but you see, this isn't even a problem to begin with. If he has chosen you to be his partner for the rest of his life, then it is not the matter of whether he is still attracted to men or not as the issue, but rather you can accept him for what and who he is. The same can be said about a man who used to sleep around with other women, who lead a wild life, who didn't once think of committing, yet he met a special woman, fell in love and gave up that former lifestyle. Isn't that what matters ultimately? You sound unsure, maybe even borderline insecure, but the only guarantee you're going to get is what you decide to do right now. Are you going to give him a chance and your relationship a chance or are you going to deny him this chance and cut it out of your future? I'll say this to you: my wife is the main reason why I no longer do many of the things I used to do from my past. Though I may think about it every now and then and at times, even miss aspects of those experiences, to me, the relationship I have with my wife outweigh everything else.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (7 October 2014):
I used to love having sex with other women. Now I'm married to a woman who I love and am sexually attracted to, but I occasionally desire other women.
I have never and probably will never act on it though, There's no reason to think your husband will either, but he's probably just trying to calm you when he says he doesn't miss it.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (7 October 2014):
 I can't speak for him but I can tell you as a bisexual woman who is now in a monogamous marriage with a man, I have "forsaken all others" and while I will not go out with women I think of it and I miss it.
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