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writes:hi please help.. im 39 and my fiancee is 41, we are due to get married in 4 months, but i know he doesnt trust me example of this is: my birthday yesterday, he popped out for a half hour, he secretly turned off our internet so i couldnt check my facebook when he was not with me just incase i got a private message from a guy friend from my past, who my fiance thinks has flirted with me
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reader, mazz38 +, writes (26 November 2010):
mazz38 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you.. i hve shown these messages to my fiance,, and even he has had to take a step back and look at himself and his issues,, i do hope that we can sort our lives out and move on, but even he agrees that maybe not being overboard trying to reassure him might help... watch this space eh.....
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reader, mazz38 +, writes (25 November 2010):
mazz38 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhe has always had trust isses as he was deeply deeply hurt by his ex wife,, i kinda thought we had gotten through it and out the other side,, he knows he was wrong to do it and has appologised over and over for doing it,, but how do i
1, reassure him that i do love him
2, get him to be able to trust in me?
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reader, followtheblackrabbit  +, writes (22 November 2010):
 Hm. I wish I knew more about this situation to really form an opinion but why is it that he doesn't trust you? Has this ex contacted you in the past and your fiance found out without you telling him? Has there ever been a cheating incident? Has your fiance always been like this? This is a problem that needs to be solved. Without trust, the love that led up to this marriage proposal will gradually dwindle until there's nothing left but resentment and hate. You'll feel frustrated, demeaned by his controlling behavior and refusal to trust. He will become bitter and paranoid because his suspicions will block him from truly being happy with you and his jealousies will increase his insecurities to the point where he'll blame and hate you for it. I truly don't know what to say but this needs to be fixed or else, this marriage will fail. A little counseling before and after the marriage can do wonders! You both can work on issues that keep this relationship from being the best it can be.
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