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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:i think my best mate (whose also a girl) fancies me, shes asked me out but i dont feel the same way, and im not gay. help! Reply to this Question
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reader, Cherriepie  +, writes (21 June 2008):
 If she's you best mate you are propbably already going out together, and seeing each other anyway. How does this make it different? Is she being direct and saying I want to "do you"?
If thats what shes saying then back away and dont hurt her. Keep it is as friends like you already are. She can live with it hopefully.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2008): Just tell her that although you like her as a friend, you are not gay. But that you love her friendship and don't want to loose it.
She'll understand. If she does not and persists then maybe it would be best to end the friendship.
Good Luck. x
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reader, scrazy  +, writes (21 June 2008):
 Tell her straight up that you're not attracted to women, but you're flattered that she asked you out. Let her know that you don't want to hurt her feelings by lying to her and it's nothing against her, you're just not gay.
If you still want to be friends with her after this and think you can work past the initial awkwardness, then go right on ahead! It's up to you though.
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reader, Sophia_Sweetheart  +, writes (21 June 2008):
 Hey sweetheart - you've just got to be honest! You can't really pretend you're a different sexuality to what you are. I'm sure she'll understand, she might even be expecting it!
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reader, kenny +, writes (21 June 2008):
 Really all you can do in this situation is express your honesty and tell her you are not interested in woman, that you like guys. Im sure she will understand, and probally respect you being upfront and honest with how you feel.
All the best x
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reader, SugarCookie +, writes (21 June 2008):
Just tell her the truth that you are not attracted to women. That you dont want to hurt her feels and that it is not personal. It is up to you if you want to keep the friendship and if you do just be honest about not being gay. I'm sure she has been turned down by other straight woman.
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