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writes:My ex-boyfriend broke up with me months ago. We don't speak to each other anymore [he kind of just cut me out]. I feel like I'm moving on, but...I know I wouldn't want to be with him anymore, but it bothers me thinking of him with another girl.I don't actually want him in my life, but sometimes I miss him, as a friend.Why does it seem like my feelings defy logic?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everyone, all your answers have been helpful.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2011): Every time you think about him think about all the reasons why you don't want him for a bf and that will help you deal with it. It takes time but it will pass. Try to focus on people and activities that don't have anything to do with him or remind you of him. There's a nice lad out here on his way to you. This lad is not the lad for you that's why he's moved on. A more fitting guy is going to catch you off guard and rock your world like never before and that's what its about. Forget about this one. Lads like him come and go. He's not the one for you. Keep your head up and eyes open because your number one is on his way!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2011): You have not moved on, I assure you. When you have, you will feel nothing about who he's with.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2011): you are doing well to move on... it is natural for you to feel bothered about the thought of him being with another girl. In time you will get used to this idea and it will not bother you as much!
I have definitely had this feeling, it is horrible but it just takes time for things to get better.
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reader, HKR29 +, writes (13 February 2011):
This is quite a normal feeling to have after a relationship.
Don't worry it will pass.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2011): It's the last steps of moving on. Firstly, you get over the thought of wanting to actually be in a relationship with them again. Then, thinking about them with another partner. Then of course, missing them as a person in general, as a friend. It is very hard, I think maybe that's why a lot of people still keep in contact now and again as friend's with their ex's. I personally don't see how that can be possible really, but apparently so.I think when you actually DO see your ex with another girl, you will then realize the pair of you are finally over because he's moved on. It can be so hard to get over someone, some seek professional help, but it can be done and you will get over him in time and feel yourself again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2011): Everyone has the exact same feelings when they break up with someone - everyone I've asked anyway. To this day I have some exes who I know I'm better off without but I still want them? Quite weird considering I haven't seen them for years lol.All you need is time, and in the meantime you get to put up with your new lover - those crazy confused feelings you're having :)
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reader, Brooklyngirl  +, writes (13 February 2011):
 It has been said that you know you are truly over a former lover, when you have moved on and are able to imagine, or see the ex with another! Until you reach that point, there are still feelings to be addressed.
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