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writes:I'm a little confused I've been with my boyfriend for two years eventhough, he cheated twice with the same girl and I forgave him but ever since I've forgave him I feel that my feelings towards him are a little different. I've become more aggresive in a sense that I don't put up with his shit. This is a guy who has no patience and a very bad temper when things don't go his way. He has a daughter who's a spoiled brat and I have two boys who are always down eachother's throats..Would it be a good idea to leave him and move on or stay livin with him...eventhough he's showing me that he's being very true in every sense..
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reader, Cateyes +, writes (28 September 2007):
 First, I sure hope he is really proving to you that he would never do this again and means it. You should never put up with a spouse cheating, if you let him walk all over you he will. You do have to stomp your foot down and he should know that is what you should be doing. Suppose the shoe was on the other foot? His patience/temper...let him get over it. He needs to chill. He should see that he made this happen and until he can totally prove to you that it will never happen again, you will always have those feelings/thoughts. If he is proving it to you, then maybe you should cut some slack, but not much. It's your tone of voice, and how you communicate with him that can make him do it again - not that he should, but he'll think you are just being a bitch and you don't love him, etc....think about that so becareful. Best thing to do, is have a talk with him and tell him how you feel...open up to him and see what he says to you. You might be surprised..good or bad..but it's better to know am I right? Now, do you see plans of marriage or do you plan on just living with him for the rest of your life...I know you didn't mention that, but as the story goes...why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free? The kids, looks like they need some good ole fashioned upbringing...brats get spankings and the two boys might need one to....well, don't yell, that doesn't solve anything..and time out..who invented that? Looks like the kids just need some discipline and chores so they can be held accountable.
All in all, it's your choice...you'll be the one living with him and you know what you can take and what you can't. Do you still love him, are you still "in love" with him? Can you get passed this...literally? Does he always show a temper with you...about anything?
Life is full of choices, we just have to decide what WE can live with and work/communicate with our "other" to actually make it work. Remember..actions speak louder then words.
Best of Luck to you...
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reader, rcn +, writes (28 September 2007):
 That would be your choice. All though your feelings have changed a little, how do you feel about him? Now let's take away the incident of him cheating. How do you feel about everything else? How do you feel the behaviors the children display? How do you feel about your boyfriend's temper?
Now with everything that is going on in your household, from 0-10 where would you place your self in regards to your overall stress level?
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