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writes:Hi, Have been talking with this guy over the internet for over 2 years. We have become very good friends in that time. We e-mail each other daily just with updates on what is happening, or going on in our day. We talk every night via messenger (written and video)for hours. When this friendship first started, it was just that. A friendship. However, in the last year both of our situations have changed, we are no longer attached in each of our personal lives, and our conversations have turned into something more flirtatious. We are both pretty shy people, and I feel like we are just waiting for the other to confirm that feelings have changed. We have never met off screen, but talk about it often now, something that we never used to do before. I have no doubt that my feelings have changed for him, but am really having a hard time telling him. When we had first met he had just gone through a terrible ordeal (for him) with a woman mis-interpreting his friendship for something more, and we promised that we would always be honest about things like that. With that being said, I'm petrified! I do not want to lose (scare away) a great friend and confidant. However, I also don't want to miss out on a chance at a great love. What do I do? Keep the friendship going and stay quiet about my romantic feelings? Tell him everything? I'm confused. Please help. =)
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reader, georgie13  +, writes (13 June 2010):
heyya im georgie. so you are friends with this lovely down to earth guy, but you have slight feelings for him. well, my advice now to you is to get out there tell him that you have feelings for him and see what he says because you never know he may have feelings too. after that make sure you meet up it'll be good for you even if it just a day out!! dont be afraid just rock on...xxx
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reader, Jendorset +, writes (13 June 2010):
If i was you i would arrange to meet him face to face. Your only friends at the moment so suggest meeting up and going for a drink or something. Nothing big just something simple. See how you like him face to face because if you tell him you have feelings for him and then realise you dont feel the same after meeting him in person it wouldnt be fair to him. I think it will be more clear how he feels about you when you spend proper time together. If you find you still like him after that then tell him your feelings have grown as youve got to know him in person. If he doesnt feel the same then deal with that when/if it comes to it. At least he will know because can you honestly be just friends with someone you may be falling for ?
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (13 June 2010):
 I think you've got the perfect opening with the honesty thing. E-mail him a message saying that you want to be honest with him and that you value his friendship so much and that he is very special and precious to you and you can't imagine your life without him anymore and that you never want to lose him. See how he responds to that. You will know by his answer whether you can then take the next step by e-mailing him again and asking if he would like to take the friendship further. If wasn't keen on you he wouldn't be flirtatious with you. I'd say you are correct in thinking that both of you are waiting for the other one to make the first move. Good luck go for it and let us know how it all works out.
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