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writes:My dad’s mad at me and pretends I don’t exist.It all started on my 14th birthday. I told my parents I was going to see a movie with my friends that night. But, in reality we were attending a house party filled with 17 year olds. We knew someone from that age group so she let us in. There was a lot of drinking and drugs involved. That party went out of control and the police had arrived. My parents found out and were really upset. I got grounded for a month. My mom got over it, eventually. But, my dad didn’t. He’s still mad at me. And, he never talks to me. He pretends I’m not there. It’s been 4 months now. I feel like I lost my daddy. Last night I went to his office. He has an office at home. I tried telling him that what he was doing was really hurting me. But, he wasn’t listening and was reading a book. I got so angry that I picked up the telephone and smashed it on the floor. Then, I went to my room and started crying.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (1 November 2012):
I think that sometimes parents believe that children come in these neat little packages, who won't make mistakes, and will be perfect all the time. This of course never works out, and when children become teenagers and start to push boundaries, problems occur more often than not.
Your father's reaction is terribly sad, because whilst he has every right to be mad, his job isn't to emotionally cut you out. His job is to let you know he's mad, and let it go. He's not cutting it (possibly because something not all that great happened to him when he was younger).
I think the best thing that you can do is to show your mom this thread. Show her how you feel, and maybe she can try talking some sense into the man.
If that doens't work, remember this - you have reached out to him and he's not responded. That's his problem, and if he wants to act like a toddler, let him. My father is piss poor, and I've done all right.
But, speak to your mom, show her this, see if she can help.
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