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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:today my dad angrily informed me that my bf and i shouldn't see eachother like we usually do. my boyfriend is important to me, he's my rock, my best friend, my support, and the person who keeps me from going insane. he's downright perfect and somehow he feels like i am too lol.anyway, my dad stormed in my room today and gave a speech about stupid things like 'you should only talk once a week,' and 'you're not allowed to see him except once a week in this house, and he has to leave at 6pm.' he then went on to talk about how i'm going to get pregnant, even though i've never had sex nor do i have the intention, AND i've told my dad this numerous times. one of the reasons i think he might be so mad is that i don't do all that many chores. usually i cook and just do dishes after and that only takes from 2-3 hours so i can understand that i need to do more, but sometimes i feel he wants me to do everything just like Cinderella. he expects me to make dinner before going to my night classes, vacuum/clean the house during the day and do laundry..and on weekends help outside the house like mow, and rake grass(we have 5 acres so it takes about 6 hours to mow on a rider, but i get the push). today he yelled at me until i began to bawl, and while tears ran down my cheeks he threatened to hit me. later on, he angrily offered to help me pack my bags so that i could move out. on top of everything he wants to take the most important person in my life away. i feel like i'm paying someone's life debt. i just don't know what to do. he claims he'd be happy if i had a job. i'm a student going to community college, looking for a job but i just can't seem to get anyone to hire me or even call me for an interview. it's not my fault that the economy isn't great. i really would love a job to get away from home and this disaster of a home wreck, but still nothing....just when i thought everything was going good again something exploded. i feel like i'm stepping on eggshells and nothing makes sense. (btw my mom is out of the picture because she is bipolar and moved out about a year and a half ago)i'm 19, so is my bf...so for now i'm just listening to sleeper 1987 by manchester orchestra. any advice would be great.
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reader, sunnycomet  +, writes (20 October 2009):
 I know it is hard but my advice is to get a job and move out. Maybe try staying with your bf or a friend's place?
Good Luck!
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