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writes:hii...i am from a cultured family...today mu husbands father scolded me infront of him for the mistake which i have not done....he didnot give me chance to explain my version...my husband remained silent through out this topic...later he just spoken good with me and his father too....i am feeling very hurtful...thinking like he would have stopped his father...usually he stays gud with me...does my husband emotionally connected to me? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2012): thank you...your answers helped me to think in different prospective
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (2 December 2012):
 I would go find your Father in law when he is alone and explain the matter from your point of view. If he will not listen then I don't know what to advice.
And I also think you need to talk to your husband. Ask him WHY he didn't stand up for you.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (2 December 2012):
 I think , that, if you come from a culture / family where it's acceptable/normal for a man to scold her daughter in law in front of other people, in fact in front of her own husband, - then it's also normal that your husband might have seen challenging his father's authority as disrespectful and inappropriate.
Yes , it would be nice to have a partner that takes your side under any circumstances, but, poor husband, next time try not to put him between a rock and a hard place , it must be awkward for him to officially take sides. You are an adult and you can fight your own battles. If something similar recurs, you just have to say " When you are ready to listen to my version of the facts and my side of the story, let me know. Before that, I am not interested in discussing this and for me this conversation is over "- and leave.
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