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writes:Dear, Cupid, My mom wants me to break up with my boyfriend because he is a vegitarian. I don't mind making meatless meals at all. I don't miss meat and he does not care if I cook and eat meat when I want to do so. It is not like he pressures anyone else to be a veg. When my cousin found out he was a veg and he told his mom and his mom put the pressure on my mom. Sparks flew. She said that I should not put up with it and make him change or I should break up with him. I think it is silly. What is even more silly is that she said that I should introduce him to my cousin who is veg and is pre-med. So he is good enough for her but not for me? huh? My family are kind of rednecks but I moved away for college and now that I am educated think they are a bunch of white trash and they just have my mom "bamboozuled." I know that some of them have a history of abusing cats. I wonder if that also has anything to do with it? Does cupid have any thoughts or advice for me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2011): In this world there is no pleasing anybody...ask them if they prefere you with a canable.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2011): Insane parents. Who the hell gives a damn? Of all the bad things your guy could do (cheat, deal drugs, ect) they pick on him cos' he's a VEG? How is it bad that he doesn't cherish the thought of eating small, adorable mammals? If anything, it's endearing.
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reader, RedAthena +, writes (24 July 2011):
 What? Does your family work for the American Beef Council or something?
Ignore Mom. If you have a veggie bf that is good to you and fits in YOUR life, that is all that matters.
You can always learn a few passive-aggressie responses like
"Thank you for sharing that Mom." and then distract with something like "I heard my cousin is dating a Satanist".
Best Wishes.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (24 July 2011):
 I heard vegan's or vegetarian's sperm taste better.
Just to throw that one in there, feel free to comment.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (24 July 2011):
 Just ignore it, your mother's objections are so futile that don't even deserve discussion.
Why should you change him and his habits if he does not want to change you and your habits. If he 's not imposing his eating style on you, I really don't see the problem. Does your mom think that you should also decide which clothes your boyfriend can wear, what toothpaste brand he can use etc ? ... I don't think so.
Btw- I have a brother in law who is not only a vegan,he also eats almost only raw foods. He buys and prepares his own food, and lets the rest of the family enjoy in peace their non-veg gourmet meals, and everybody's happy.
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reader, chigirl +, writes (24 July 2011):
Yes, stop worrying about what your mother tells you. She can have her opinion, fine, but you're under no obligation to do as she sees fit. You're an adult now who makes her own decisions. Stop caring what your mom thinks and tell her to lay off, or simply go "aha, aha, mhm" every time she brings it up and let it go in the one ear and out the other. It'll keep the peace in the family if you just ignore it.
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