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writes:Hi, I'm really confused at the moment. I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years and we have 2 children together. I have never really been close to my mum but my nan and grandad have always been like a mum and dad to me. I live fairly close to my grandparents but my mum lives a few hours away. My mother and my nan never got on either and didn't speak for years. My grandparents have always got on very well with my boyfriend and treated him as one of the family.Recently my mum and nan started speaking again (after being in the hospital at the same time when my son was born prematurely). Since they started speaking nearly six months ago my nan started to change towards me and my grandad went into hospital but nobody would let me see him or speak to him because my mum was there. Now it's gotten to the point where my grandparents and my mum say they want nothing to do with me unless I leave my boyfriend. They say they hate him. They have no reason to, their excuse is because we have a few money troubles but he has a full time job and works long hours. We can't help the way things are we are not on benefits but with the whole credit crunch times are hard. I do not understand why my nan and grandad have stopped speaking to me. First of all they said it was because of a little argument I had with my nan and now they are saying it's because they hate my boyfriend. I have tried to talk to them but it's got me nowhere. I'm so worried because my nan and grandad are not getting any younger and I don't want things to be this way if anything should happen. My nan has turned really nasty, the few times I have spoken to her she has started to say things like don't shout why are you upsetting me? Even when I'm bein perfectly calm. I know she says these things when my grandad is close by so that he gets angry at me. I can't take things being like this any more it's starting to cause trouble between me and my boyfriend because I'm starting to resent him for being the reason my family have disowned me. Even though I know deep down they are the ones being totally unreasonable. Sorry this was so long it's just soo complicated. What can I do?thankskatrina x
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reader, bezzy39 +, writes (27 June 2010):
they have there own reasons, a heartbreaking e mail from my g, daughter. why do they not understand when you tell them the truth they cannot accept it. because i fell out with my daughter, why pass on the poison without asking for the other side.
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reader, spydog50  +, writes (7 March 2010):
Hi karin just hang in there if you love your man and he is good to you don,t ever leave him #1 be happy for your self first . Things will work themselfs out i,m sure your grmnparents still love you with all there heart there just worried about you your still a baby in there hearts .I no how you feel my family disowned me five years ago i,m a #1 guy no bad habbits what so ever i,m very normal 48 year old guy thay phone once in a while and thats it noone would even invite me even for a coffee i thing the inlaws dont like me thats why i,m not going to let it get to me to much i,m happy to be healthy i wish you the best of luck take care randy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2009): Do you love him? My family has been treating me like crap for the longest time because of my boyfriend, so I understand what you're going through. Honestly, if you love him then stay with him. Your family will always be your family whether they like it or not. The crap I've been put through with my family with the constant threats is just ridiculous. Just like me, you are not doing anything wrong. You have a family with your boyfriend. You don't want to lose that. If he is a good guy and he treats you right, there is no problem. And remember - they have no say. You are your own person, and it is not fair for people to tell you that you can't be with him.Good luck with everything!-Jess
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reader, jay12toes  +, writes (19 February 2009):
 you need to get your family together and you need to tell them that you love them but that you cant deal with this anymore, tell them to ask themselves if they really want you out of there lives. ask them if they will miss you when your gone, just like you will miss them. if they dont want you around any more, then just stop coming around.
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