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writes:On March 27, 2010 I was forced to have an abortion by my mom and grandmom.They knew i didnt want an abortion, so they cut had made me stop going to school,cut off my phone, and took my laptop so that I could have any contact with any one who was supporting me through my pregnancy, they did this til i had the abortion.The first time they took me to get the abortion i refused to sign the papers but they eventually forced me physcologically. Ever since then I have being struggling to cope and i pray everyday for God's and my unborn baby Hailey's forgiveness. after the abortion My mom immdiately put me on the pill and i had sex 4.28.10 and now i have that "Pregnant" instinct. I think I am pregnant again and i feel pregnant.I am so scared I do not want another abortion! please help im only 17. Please dont judge me I only want adviced and gudiance. I feel so alone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2010): I was kind of in the same boat as you.I got pregnant at the end of my senior year in high school. Me and my boyfriend at the time told my mom. She was definitely upset but she "accepted" not too long after. Unfortunately my family was in town and they all knew and was adamant that I get an abortion but I was completely against it. What finally got me to give in is my boyfriend started to back down and I did not want to have a child by myself.
So I had an abortion but 1 month later I found myself pregnant again. I decided I wanted my baby so I didn't tell my mom until I started a school, and I was 6mos preg. It was to late to get rid of it.
I now have a 5yr old daughter whom I wouldn't give back for the world but things have been extra tough and looking back I would have definitely done a lot of things different.
If you are preg. right now then do your best to not give up but if you are not, keep it that way for awhile(at least until you live on your own and can support yourself financially.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2010): Getting pregnant again won't right the wrong you have experienced. I'm sorry that you feel powerless and violated over what happened to you, but the bottom line is that you are better off not having a child at this stage.
I know that getting pregnant again would allow you to regain some feeling of control over your reproductive decisions that you've been robbed of. Maybe it would put down some of the guilt you feel right now.
But in the long run this is worse for you (and it takes more control of your life away) than if you had not. You have decades to have children in the future. So please, grit your teeth, get counseling, cope with the feelings of guilt and being wronged about this for a few years, and DON'T GO GET PREGNANT ALL OVER AGAIN. Another pregnancy won't fix things.
The best way you can fix things is to go make something good come out of this. A teenage pregnancy causes a lot of problems & hardships & sacrifices to the mother. I know you don't agree with what happened, but now that it's over you did end up with that second chance. So go earn that second chance. Go live your young life right.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2010): If you wish to have a baby, you are going to need to learn to stand up to your family. Sometimes it has to be done.
You are 17. This is not a child. Your body is capable of making and supporting a child.
Its time your mind grew to do the same.
Flynn 24
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2010): if you are pregnant and you want to keep the little one - is there any where you can go to make sure YOUR wishes are not ignored?? brothers, sisters, aunts, uncles, friends etc. Could you talk to school or a guidance counsellor?
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (7 May 2010):
 Did you missed the pill on any day ? When is your supposed period day?
Call the women's help center that is nearest you for any help and assistance. .You can Goggle the address online.
http://www.covenantnews.com/pregnant/
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reader, Not My Name  +, writes (7 May 2010):
 If you have been on the pill for a month, taking it properly, and have not been ill with vomiting or the runs, then it is 99% likely that you are NOT pregnant. However, wait a week or 2 and do a test to make sure.
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reader, Red Green 0289 +, writes (7 May 2010):
Advice: Use a condom + the pill.
Your too young to keep a child, and you need to become responsible. If you old enough to spread your legs you need to become responsible. I hope you're not pregnant, for your sake, for your family's sake and for the sake of the unborn child. Good luck!
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