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22-25,
*aiku
writes:Hello,I met this guy online, nearly 2 years ago. He's korean and I'm polish.There are quite a few things that my parents refuse to accept about him and they constantly try to make me break up with him. The main arguments are his short height, the fact that korean men need to do 1year 9months of military service (he's already been in the army for 1 year) and the distance separating us. We've already met and I introduced him to my parents and they were all nice but the moment he left, real hell started.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (23 June 2017):
 My problem with this is that he is an adult and you aren't. In 5 years, it wouldn't matter, but it does now.
It's also unlikely that this will go anywhere because you're too young to afford to travel to see each other enough to make a relationship work. Neither of you can move as soon as he's out of the army because it's too soon.
I think you should let this go, OP. Not for the reasons your parents have given, but because you're too young for this type of relationship and too far apart.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (23 June 2017):
 You are still very young so, if I were your mother, I would just sit back and let things run their course because, at your age, it is highly unlikely the relationship will last very long as you (and your feelings) will change so much over the next few years.
I do have to question what you are doing meeting guys online at the age of 14-15 though. Also, how old is this guy? If he has already done a year of military service, then he must be AT LEAST 19. What is he doing meeting girls of 15-16?
Do HIS parents know about YOU? I wouldn't mind betting they don't.
I think the fact he is short is probably the least of your parents' worries. They are probably more worried about the culture and religion differences, not to mention the fact that a grown man is grooming their teenage daughter online and she is inviting him to visit her.
Your parents are being your parents and trying to protect you. I know that, at your age, you think you are capable of looking after yourself but please believe me when I tell you that you really should be listening to your parents' concerns. When you have a daughter of your own, you will look back on this time and understand what you put your parents through.
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