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writes:i'm having a serious relationship with someone and i really know deep in my heart that this is it. both of us had a colorful yet infamous dating history tho his is much worse and more public. and we both agreed that the past is the past and we're starting fresh with an honest and committed relationship. we have plans about getting married and all that implies, he tried being in good graces with everyone who matter to me, but my parents told me that i deserve someone better. even my other relatives are not in favor of him because of his bad reputation, worse case is that i might get disinherited like my brother. i'm willing to trade everything for him but my family is very important to me and the last thing i wanna give my parents is heartache. anyone? Reply to this Question
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (5 February 2007):
 He needs to take time out to prove to your family by his actions that he's a changed man. Only then will they be able to eat their words. Sometimes parents think their kids are perfect and no one's good enough for them.
So what if you are disinherited, it's only money and material things, love is far more important than that. Hopefully you'll be able to prove both your parents wrong before they leave this earth. You and your boyfriend continue seeing one another, let your relationship grow and mature and always remain faithful to one another. They see for themselves how he's changed if he loves and adores you and puts you first all the time so let his actions speak for themselves.
Eve
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2007): Family all the way girl, you know they love you, they want what is best for you.
A fight between your BF and your family will only end in the death of your relationship one way or another. Let them make peace between themselves by taking time to get to know each other or end the battle before lines are drawn.
An alterior motive of getting into your pants lies behind every word a BF says, so take his word with a grain of salt. Your family only has the motive of love.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2007): hi, i have a similar problem with my partner and family, i found the best thing to do is see them at different times, and dont talk about him when your with your family and dont talk about your family to him. it's hard but it works for me. good luck
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (5 February 2007):
 Hi
I had the same with my parents once, and they had me written out of there will. But I was in love, and told them, nothing was going to stop me seeing this man.
What I will say now though you may not like.
They were right, he beat me black and blue. If I hadn't left him, i think he could have killed me. And my family could see right through him.
You may not have this problem at all. But all i'm saying is, be carefull. Your family are looking out for you, and if they all feel the same. Then maybe they have a reason to behave like this. I hated it that my parents were right, but thank god, they loved me enough to bother making me come to the decision to leave him.
Please dont think im saying this will happen to you. But if your family are important, just listen to why they feel the way they do.
And if your B/F loves you enough, he will do his best to prove them wrong.
I really hope it works out ok for you.
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