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writes:I have always been a tough girl. I don't mind being girly. I love love love bows and color, but I am not sure about something. My boyfriend says he likes blue eyes, he says it a lot. I have brown eyes... I am asian so they are sorta dark. How can I lighten them and make them more appealing to him as brown. I really don't want to get colored contacts... Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2009): DON'T lighten your eyes.ENlighten your boyfriend... on what a stupid little boy he is! Hahaha at my own joke. Ask him why he is dating you if he likes blue eyes?In my opinion contacts should be used either a replacement for glasses, or for evil people in movies with red eyes. :)I'm Asian and I have boyfriends that love my brown eyes and black hair and everything else that comes with me. You should try those kind of guys too ;)And as for...'A female reader, SirenaBlusera +, writes (11 July 2009):People accuse me of being a bitch because I say things like that... but I don't think I am a bitch, I think I am a nice person who doesn't put up with crap... and that it what counts... what I think of myself. :)'I like that! Going to use it! :D
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (11 July 2009):
 I;m sure there is something you like about guys that your bf does not have.. ;)
Yeah, this guy does not have a brain. Where do they sell brains?
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reader, betty_black  +, writes (11 July 2009):
 You dont have to change for anyone, especially a stupid man who decides to date Asian girls but digs blue eyes?? If you really wanna please this arsehole then get blue contacts, but personally id stay as you are. Its his issue not yours.
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reader, tux +, writes (11 July 2009):
 If your boyfriend likes blue eyes, I would take a gander that he shouldn't be looking to date an asian girl. I haven't seen many if any asian girls with blue eyes.. er natural blue eyes.. I would say to you to not try to please your bf on his quest for blue eyes because the only way for you to do that would be to really just go find a girl with blue eyes and set him up with her..
You can never please anyone 100% of the time.. if he continues this then either leave him or I would use what another aunt said though I would tone it down some and say how much you love X on a guy... as long as X is something your b/f doesn't have.. and you don't even have to lie.. I;m sure there is something you like about guys that your bf does not have.. ;)
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reader, SirenaBlusera +, writes (11 July 2009):
People accuse me of being a bitch because I say things like that... but I don't think I am a bitch, I think I am a nice person who doesn't put up with crap... and that it what counts... what I think of myself. :)
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reader, SirenaBlusera +, writes (11 July 2009):
I think next that "I wish you had a (fill in the blank)bigger penis, larger muscles, etc.) would be the perfect response to his remark about eye color.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2009): You should happy with they way you are. You shouldn't have to change anything just to impress him! I'm Asian too, and I would find it very insulting if my boyfriend constantly told me he liked blonde hair and blue eyes.
If you really want to, you could get coloured contacts I guess. But I personally think an Asian with blue eyes would look awful. Good Luck!
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (11 July 2009):
 Well, you could cut them out and get glass eyes in the desired color.
But I would suggest you would first ask yourself what it says about a guy who has an ASIAN gf who constantly tells this gf that he prefers blue eyes.
Asian girls do not have blue eyes. Might as well ask for blond hair on an asian or black hair on a north european girl or red hair on a black woman. These things just don't happen and claiming to want them is just note done.
Would you say to him that you wish he had a bigger penis or more muscles or was taller or had a hairy chest or a fullgrown beard etc etc to his face? Constantly?
No, a bf/gf is a complete package and you take it whole or not at all.
And say you could change the color of your eyes (you can't) what is next. Bleach your hair, lighten your skin, enlarge your boobs, tuck your buttocks? Because I am willing to bet that if he had an asian girl with blue eyes, he would still not be satisfied.
He might be just childish, but a darker part might be that by making you insecure about yourself he is seeking to control you. You feeling you are not good enough for him, this make syou work harder and perhaps ignore things about him that could stand some improvement.
Just be careful.
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reader, SirenaBlusera +, writes (11 July 2009):
Wow, what a charmer your boyfriend is. No offense but he sounds like a real pud.
That was an idiotic remark for your boyfriend to make. Don't change yourself just because your boyfriend made a retarded comment! There's nothing wrong with you, there's something wrong with him.
Next time "Romeo" says that he's attracted to blue eyes, tell him, "I'm attracted to boys who don't act retarded." I think he needs to drink his own medicine, lol.
Your boyfriend doesn't appreciate you for who you are, you deserve someone who does. Don't change for ANY guy, above all, one who doesn't deserve you. He doesn't seem to know how to treat a girlfriend.
By the way, I think Asian girls are really beautiful... if I were a lesbian, I'd want you!
I'm a straight girl who is attracted to latinos... I love the dark brown eyes and black hair.
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (11 July 2009):
 Don't bother. You are fine just the way you are...if your boyfriend wants to look at blue eyes he can flip open a magazine or something. You don't need to alter yourself for anybody, if you want a change do it because YOU want to do it, not to please anyone else because it often ends up backfiring anyway.
You're awesome just the way you are! If your boyfriend doesn't appreciate that, there's another man around the corner who will!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2009): If you feel that you have to change who you are to be with this boyfriend then the cost of this relationship is too high.
Be comfortable in your own skin and love who you are and what you look like, if he isn't attracted to you because you don't have blue eyes, then what the heck is he doing with you?
Don't get colored contactis for no reason, and there is no way to change the color of your eyes, and why would you want too? You are a beautiful dark haired, dark eyed Asian girl!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2009): its contacts or say get over it
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