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writes: i've been with my boyfriend now for almost a month and we really like eachother, i have never had a good relationship before. the last boyfriend i had, he was my first serious relationship, the first boy i felt i honestly loved.i lost my virginity to him, not fully he penetrated me but he hurt so terribly we didn't try again. He then left me for my best friend, now with my current boyfriend i am scared to have sex or try and have sex again, we have tryed but again it hurt so much i could not bear it and he could not fit inside me, i have a very low tolerance for pain what would make intercourse with him easier? and is this normal?Apart from physical anxieties i fear he would leave me for his ex girlfriend constantly. I know he would not but the fear remains. It makes me nervous to let him close. I do feel more comfortable with him than my last bf, as my last bf would constantly compare me to my bestfriend in every aspect you can imagine. I hate my body, i have 34 B size breasts and i hate them, i was constantly bullied when i was younger names like 'flat chested freak' 'boy' and laughter by my peers still haunt me. My current bf has seen my breasts but when he did i cryed, i hate them so much: immediately i had to cover myself back up, i could not look at them , look at me, look at my body. i could not look at my bf niether, he made me though he turned my face and told me that he thought i was beautiful he likes me the way i am , that he wished he looked as fantastic as me. I told him i couldn't believe him although i know he means well i can not absorb it in to my system. the friend my ex/last bf left me for, brags about her wonderous curvy figure, her breasts and even though i did some modelling in my childhood my confidence has never grown. My friends seem to fancy her, my ex best friend they love her c cup breasts he curves.I have a very slender figure and it shouldnt bother me but it does, are curves everything? do guys only want big breasts?Advice would be greatly appreciated , for the above. thank you
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2009): A Poem...My heavenly gift...Oh I wish I had boobs that would wobble.Mine just stay still in one place. In the breast hall of fame. You won’t see my name. For my boobs; they would be a disgrace. Sure boobs of my size have their merit. They’re easy to fit with a bra. And when I go for a dip,You won’t see one slip…out They stay put…just where they are And I’m not one to seek much attention So you won’t find me strutting about In a boob tube that’s trying by gravity defying to leave no room, not even for doubt. But I sure envy big breasted women. I’ve seen them at parties you know. With all confidence thrust In their mighty big bust Entrancing the men as they go. Though I’ve heard from a big bosomed buddy That it’s not all it’s cracked up to be She says in frustration “Try to hold conversation When there’s only two things a guy sees” Now if I paid a few grand to enlarge them- to, say thirty-six B or C Would they still look so natural And could I class them as collateral Sorta like home improvements on me Now I’ve not taken this boob thing just lightly I’ve done quite a bit of research As I try to keep abreast In my mammary quest I’ve found there’s a bit to be learned There’s questions that need to be answered Like cleavage, how wide and how deep I can have nipples bigger But somehow I figured; That could poke Sweetie’s eye in his sleep Oh, I wish I had boobs that were awesome I’d buy a bright red bathing suit On the beach I would run In slow motion for fun To show off my best attribute Now don’t think I’d just get them for vanity There’s much I’d aspire to do I could feed many babies When I was lactating And for convenience, I could offer drive-thru In a t-shirt I’d test air conditioning They could ’see’ if they had it too low And if I stood outside My breasts pumped up with pride Police’d use me to stop traffic flow Well you can see I’ve a lot to consider For the big plunge, I need some more time So I’ll keep you updated But for now they’re just fated To stay as they are for a while And there’s my sweetie who totally accepts me For he loves each and every little…bit He says “stay as you are You’re the most beautiful by far” As he gazes into my eyes…not my tits.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2008): i'll offer my tuppence for what its worth
and its gospel
i prefer smaller boobs as have some of my friends
normally associated with a slimmer girl
always have done
in the end it is the face that is the clincher.....
cheers
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2008): heya girl-
last answer is correct-small boobs are soo in-katie price (jordan) had a reduction too! 34b is not small-its a nice size actually-because at least u can wer tops with frills, without frills, small vests without bras, boobtubes, bikinis withouttt the support lol- andddd also- during sex-when u bcum more confident-go on top-from that angle ur boobs will look massive-and theres always pushups-can i just say-onceee ur kit is off--ur boyf wont notice the size anyways-guys r just randy and dats it lol. but as for the pain-u could go to the docs and get checked out-use loads of lubes anddd speakkk to ur boyf-if hesss propa brilliant and u feel comfortable enuff to hav sex wid him-then u shud be able to talk to him. tell him how u feel abt ur last boyf-onceee ur mind set is all clear-it might be easier for u. Dont feel pressured to do nyfing tho-take ur time.
god bless
friend xx
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reader, :):):)  +, writes (26 May 2008):
Smaller boobs are much more fashionable now, look at kate Moss! At 34B, you arent flat chested at all, you are a perfectly normal size. And at least you wont have to worry about big sagging boobs when you get older lol.Your ex boyfriend was an idiot and you are far too mature for him. Be happy that you've found a great boyfriend who obviously likes you just the way you are, be happy with yourself and that your healthy.Whatevers happened in the past, is in the past and stays there.As for the sex part, this is isnt all that unusual, lots of girls have the same problem. This is mainly due to that fact that they are nervous and this can make your body tense. Make sure you are as relaxed as you could possibly be, take your time and make sure you are fully aroused, you might also want to think about using a lubricant.Dont worry it will happen in time with alot of practise.Good luckxxx
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