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writes: Hello,i got one question,i remember at the age of 10 my best friend(f) and i were playing and eventually we started touching each other,kissed and it felt good,my mom walked in and caught us,we were immediately separaete for life,i never saw her after.we changed schools and address.Anyway im in my twentys now,have a guy and kid,i have been straight all my life,but recently this particular memory has been haunting me,and i get turned on,also my girlfriends always tell me that i'm a good person as i am always nice to them,but i have been wondering,does this mean i maybe curious or bisexual?i have never been with women.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2005): yes it was a great advice maybe i just missed her a lot and just curious as to how is is right now and whats shes doing,so i took the chance of finding her,and talk to her over the phone,she to has a guy and kids in her life,she seems very happy just as me,and yes she too does remember the incident and often wonder,it has scared us for life as it was an embarrassing situation at the time,but i am happy to know that we both got over it and moved on with our lives,thank you for the response,it has made me less guilty.bye
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reader, Qui-Gon-Jim +, writes (16 December 2005):
 Okay, I'm gonna start by getting very confusing by using psychology. Sigmund Freud reckoned that, as a child, between the ages of 3 and 5, children develop an active 'fascination' with their genitals (ever had to tell your child off for having their hands down their pants?). After this, when they're growing up toabout 10 or 11, their psycho-sexual development pauses and they learn more stuff! However, the less challenged children get a little "bored", and their mind wanders. Children with low attention spans and high IQs during childhood will allow their minds to wander (in my theory, according to Freud's stuff).
So, it may simply be that your psycho-sexual development kicked in again, and you were both a little curious (in lames terms... We could go deeper, but it'd be boring). So, you may not be lesbian/ bisexual.
But, lets not forget, if you carry curious feelings about women now, that you are. It's all a question of HOW YOU FEEL NOW. The incident when you were 10 is pretty much immaterial.
I hope I've shed some light on this.
Qui-Gon xxx
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (11 December 2005):
The fact that you think that you may have romantic and sexual feelings for another woman suggest that there is a chance you could actually be considered 'gay' or 'bi'.
yet at the same time, remembering this experience with someone who was very close to you and who was then riped out of your life could be a sign of just missing her and that closeness you two shared. the fact that you did that with her suggests that you probably felt very very close to her and that would of perhaps made the experience more comfortable and better.
If you really wanted to find out for sure if these feelings might mean that you would possibly like a realtionship with another woman in the future, then i sugggest thinking long and hard about your relationship first with your bf and child, the family you have. whether you be gay or not, if say another man came along who was very attractive and so on and so forth and you liked him, would you risk the ending of your relationship with your current bf for him? if the answer was no then i think that means that you are quite happy with your current bf and wouldnt like to change it,despite possible new people who you are attracted to, so i think then staing with him and not expeirenmenting with other females would be a good idea.
im sorry if i didnt help much!!! but good luck!
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