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writes:my wife and i broke up for just over 12 months after a 2 year marriage,seperation was mutual and we both met new partners,she moved some 200 miles away to be with her new man but relationship failed,as did mine with new woman as i stil love my wifewe have started to see each other again at weekends but iv found out shes working as a high class escort,i firstly found letters and other information from the agency she works through so i checked online and sure enough i found the full worksQuestion is what should i do? i want to be with her but im worried this sort of lifestyle shes got into will affect her sexually real bad,iv not approached her about this as yet,iv only just found out,help
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reader, DrDivine +, writes (21 March 2011):
You definitely need to talk to her but it is something you should approach gently and with compassion and understanding. You certainly seem to be more concerned than angry which in my opinion is a good thing. She obviously has her reasons for entering into the sex industry and it is important that you show a williness to accept or at least to try to accept. I’m not sure how long it has been since you have started to see each other again or if you are having sex again – think about how her behaviour and attitude has been. Before you found out that she was an escort did you detect anything strange in her behaviour? Being an escort does not necessarily mean that she will be screwed up. A lot of women in the sex industry find it empowering and can be more understanding of men and their needs – and I’m not talking sexually. Some women are suited to a life in the sex industry and can remain grounded. Some women are not and simply do it as a means to earn a living and it can indeed mess them up. Whichever position your wife is in, if you love her and are sure you want to make a go of things with her then all you need to do is be supportive. Once you’ve let her know you are on her side you can discuss how you feel about the fact that she may decide she wants to continue escorting. Good Luck :)
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (21 March 2011):
 Tell her. Talk to her. But you also need to figure out before hand if this is something you can live with or not.
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