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writes: My ex-girlfriend has a new boyfriend but she is jealous because I want to go out with her best friend. We stayed friends after we broke up and talk on the phone a lot, but she is always trying to make me jealous and I'm not that kind of person. What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2005): She is a jealousy prone person. She tried to make you jealous and it did not work. I think you should go for whoever you feel like. If your ex has a problem with it, then the problem is really hers and not yours. If your interest in your ex's friend results in friendship breakdowns, then the friendships were never strong enough in the first place to be worth the effort.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2005): Don't disrespect her by persuing her friend. You're potentially ruining something that she had (a friendship with this other girl) before she met you. My advice is to consider if she started dating your best friend. Would you not feel like she crossed some boundary.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2005): It seems to be that she still has feelings for you, or else, why would she try to make you jealous and be so possessive.
While it's a great thing to remain friend with your ex, I think there should always be a separation period after you break up, to make it clear for both of you that the relationship is definitely over, and to give you time to build up your life again.
I don't really understand why you should not be allowed to go out with her best friend, if you ex just wants to remain friend with you, she has no right to tell you what to do. You're single, her best friend is single, and your ex has a new boy friend, you are not harming anybody's feelings.
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reader, laurette +, writes (25 September 2005):
it's best to stay clear of your ex's friends, not only will it cause problems between you and your ex, it could more than likely end their friendship and yours. she has a boyfriend but it seems she might still be holding onto the feelings she had/has for you , whether she was the one who ended the relationship or not , maybe she is confused about her feelings or maybe she want to to keep her options open should this new relationship not work out. speaking from experience us women are hard to read, become very jealous and we tend to find it hard to make decission of the heart especially when our heart is telling us one thing and our mind is telling us the total opposit and visa versa. if you desire a new relationship do so outside the friendship you share as there with be less problems for the both of you , if your friendship is important try respecting her wishes. if she truely moved on from the relationship with you, whether she has a partner or not, there would be no love lost and she wouldn't care if you dated her friend , so it tells me that those feeling for you are still there deep in her heart. the best solution would be to talk to her about how she feels and how you feel and move on from there.. good luck and keep well.....
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