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writes:so my girlfriend has never been with a woman before me. we've been together for about four months now and i feel very confident that she loves and cares a lot for me. we seem to be a phenominal couple and have no real issues in our relationship at all.that being said, she's on a trip to new york currently, and told me her first boyfriend from years ago goes to school there and they may potentially meet up for a bit some time this week. of course i told her that sounds great and if they do, to just let me know and to have a fantastic time. but of course, on the inside i'm like "damn!" lol. i can't help but have it give me that uneasy feeling. plus it doesn't help that he's doing his postdoc at yale and i'm some poor schmuck. lol.anyway, i don't think she'd do anything and i do trust her. i really, really do. but still. i'm only human. how do most people handle situations like these? just grin and bare it? i'm just curious. thanks in advance!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2013): Lol. The term schmuck isn't necessarily a penis. If used literally, I suppose. But that's like taking the phrase "he's a douchebag" to mean exactly that he's a literal bag of douche. We use terms like that to portray other meaning such as he's a jerk or he isn't a very nice guy. I'm fairly certain the poster wasn't calling herself a penis. Although that is a rather funny thought.Anyway, I understand where you're coming from. But ideally it is true. That if you trust each other, you shouldn't worry. But let's be honest. We don't live in an ideal world. We aren't wired not to lack emotions like that. Even when we trust our significant others, sometimes our imagination can get the best of us or it starts wandering and taking us places we don't want to go. It's human nature. I suppose you could tell her how it makes you feel, but I think your best bet is to give her the benefit of the doubt. And yes, situations like this suck. Lol. I'm sure it will be fine.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (20 March 2013):
 in a perfect world where you can say and do what you want what would you do? would you forbid her to see him?
why or why not?
IF YOU TRUST HER then there should not be an issue.
the fact that it's an issue means you are not sure.
you really think that the fact that he's doing an IVY LEAGUE post doc is important vs your being a penis (what do you think schmuck means honey)....
what's causing your discomfort?
have you talked to her about it?
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