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female
age
36-40,
*haron_jillbug
writes:I don't think my ex is ready for a relationship right now. He ran from our relationship because he felt that he was getting too close. In his previous relationship, the girl hurt him and he hasn't been able to trust another female so he pushed me away with his actions and acted as though he didn't care about me. Now its a completely different story and he claims he loves me, but I'm unsure about starting another relationship with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2007): Some People do change as they get older, but others actually get worse. You must decide if you want to go back, maybe back to they and their old ways. I would think very carefully about this one and not make a decision straight away. It is entirely up to you but i dont think you can go back. Past memories and stuff.
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reader, rcn +, writes (3 October 2007):
 Sometimes people are like that if you're a new experience after the hurt. After being away for a bit of time, the begin to realize and have probably heard time after time by loved ones that you were not the cause of his issues.
I don't think it's a bad idea to give someone a chance. What I would to is talk to him before hand. See where he's really at. When asked why he acted the way he did, see if he takes responsibility or does he place blame. All though his ex's weren't nice, doesn't excuse his own behavior, and ownership over the past. He needs to separate the pain, and leave it with those who caused it, more as a personal issue than a relationship issue. When we consider actions to be a relationship issue, we bring those issues with us from relationship to relationship and causes trouble in them.
I hope everything works out for you, Take care.
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